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Crypto Crooks

In the wake of the recent Bitcoin ATM scam, I was asked what I know about cryptocurrency. I know just enough to be dangerous. What concerns me the most is how easily and how often it is used in fraud. Here is what I found out for you.

What is a Crypto-wallet?

It’s a digital tool to store, send, and receive cryptocurrencies like Bitcoin, Ethereum, Tether, etc. As of March 2024, there were about 8,985 active cryptocurrencies you could store in a crypto-wallet. It consists of a pair of cryptographic keys: a public key (your wallet address) and a private key (your password). There are different types of wallets. For example, hardware wallets are physical devices that store your private keys offline. Software wallets are apps or programs installed on your computer or mobile device. Online wallets are hosted by cryptocurrency exchanges or other online platforms. Not all cryptocurrency wallets are equal in terms of security, so do your due diligence. Choose a wallet based on criteria like security features, reputation, and ease of use. Read reviews from legitimate sources. Keep your private keys secure and do not share them with anyone.

What is a Cypto-exchange?

It’s an online platform where users buy, sell, and trade cryptocurrencies for other digital assets or traditional currencies like dollars. Exchanges vary in terms of security, fees, available cryptocurrencies, and regulatory compliance. Research and choose reputable exchanges that have strong security measures like multi-factor authentication (MFA). If you have a large amount of cryptocurrency consider storing it in a hardware wallet instead of keeping it on the exchange.

What’s AI Got to Do with It?

Scalable Scams: Artificial Intelligence (AI)-powered tools automate scam campaigns so criminals can attack a lot of potential victims simultaneously. For example, AI algorithms analyze large, publicly available datasets, like from your social media platforms. If you have significant cryptocurrency holdings or actively participate in cryptocurrency communities, scammers can precisely identify you and tailor their outreach to your preferences.

Social Engineering: AI can generate phishing emails, text messages, and websites that mimic legitimate cryptocurrency platforms or services and look extremely authentic. Do not give your Personally Identifiable Information (PII) to anyone or any app during a transaction you did not originate.

Deepfakes: AI-driven deepfake technology produces realistic videos and audio recordings of prominent figures in the cryptocurrency industry. Criminals use this content to deceive potential investors. For example, spreading false information or endorsing fraudulent projects.

Safety First

Your money in a bank has FDIC protection. Your money in a cryptocurrency account has no protection. Cryptocurrency’s inherent anonymity not only makes it attractive to criminals it also makes it easy for them to threaten you into doing something you cannot undo. How can you protect yourself in the cryptocurrency space?

Verify the legitimacy of the institution you send cryptocurrency to before sending it.
Ask questions. For example, if multi-factor authentication is not offered, ask for it.
Remain calm and reject any pressure to make snap decisions. Refuse to give out your PII (e.g., social security number, bank account number, etc.) just because they demand it.
Do not send cryptocurrency to anyone you have not met in person or to anyone (even a friend or relative) who texts or emails you with an urgent need for money. Either call that person using the phone number from your contact list or go see them in person.

What do you think we should know about cryptocurrency? Please share your experience in the comments.

Sustainable Success

What happens when you compare your job performance to your coworkers’ and you are not flattered by the comparison? You feel like you can’t mess up. Ever. You fight to be #1, and discover how hard it is to stay #1. You stick to the routines that proved successful in the past instead of trying new things which stifles your creativity, experimentation, and innovation. Beating the competition becomes more important to you than your customer’s satisfaction. What can you do to turn things around?

Team of Rivals

It’s normal to see your coworkers’ job performance, notice your manager’s reaction to it, and gauge how you are doing. You feel good when you compare favorably and nervous when you don’t. This habit is probably most obvious, and even formalized, in a company’s sales department where top salespeople are rewarded more than bottom ones creating internal competition among the team. Instead of comparing yourself to colleagues, how about setting incremental goals for yourself? Make them flexible so you can embrace change, be open to new approaches, and bounce back after disappointments. For example, using our sales scenario, if you did not reach your quota last month, would another 10 cold calls a day help you reach it this month? Your capacity to adapt will not only set you apart, but also carry you through inevitable setbacks.

Abundance Over Scarcity

Instead of being threatened by your coworkers’ success, how about using it for motivation? Continuous learning is a cornerstone of professional development and identifies you as a leader. Seek opportunities for upskilling so you stay relevant in your ever-evolving market. Make resilience in the face of adversity one of your goals. Swap your fear of not being good enough for curiosity. For example, analyze the differences between you and a successful coworker to discover capabilities you should obtain. There will be enough opportunities for everyone because you will create them. Factor self-compassion into your goal setting. It will help you maintain a positive mindset and reduce self-criticism. Be kind to yourself by celebrating your achievements, no matter how small.

You Are Your Competition

Instead of focusing on competing with your colleagues, how about shifting your mindset to competing with yourself? Strive to become an expert in your field. Set goals focused on personal growth so you are not only valuable to your organization, but also to your profession. State your goals using phrases that describe process improvement. For example, improve on, get better at, grow in. You want to be better than YOU were yesterday not better than OTHERS are today. Set small, specific, easily-achievable goals to quickly boost your self-confidence. Maintain and refine your learning through regular practice. Whether it’s honing your presentation skills, becoming a more efficient project manager, or perfecting your coding techniques, steady progress helps you retain knowledge and discover new skills to learn next.

Measuring your self-worth by whether or not you meet monthly Key Performance Indicators (KPI) does not set you up for sustainable success. When some variables are not under your control, you can try your best and still fall short of the organization’s goal for you. Align your goals with your values and aspirations, not with external benchmarks or the achievements of your team. It’s surprising how often you meet monthly KPI when you set goals that are personally meaningful to you.

How do you prevent comparing yourself to your coworkers? Please share in the comments.

That is Disappointing

When I have a negative experience at work it feels much like the grieving process (shock, denial, anger, acceptance). After feeling all the disappointment, I have to intentionally let that emotion go. Being preoccupied by disappointment can cause us to get stuck. Do any of the following sound familiar?

Taking Your Credit

During a brainstorming session, you share an original concept and your team enthusiastically supports it. At the official launch of the project your coworker presents the idea as their own. What do you do? First, control your emotions. Then gather your date and time-stamped notes just in case you have to prove it was your original idea. For example, flag emails and save meeting minutes (and any other records you can cite as evidence) in a folder on your desktop. Now pull the credit stealer aside and in a private 1:1 meeting say something as non-confrontational as possible like, “I’m happy the client is excited about our idea and I’m surprised you did not mention that it is our joint brainchild. As we move forward, what is your plan for sharing future credit?” If they don’t plan to share credit and if this person is a repeat offender, confidentially ask your manager how they would handle someone who presents other’s ideas as their own.

Losing a Client

When a client leaves it is a blow both to your confidence and your company’s bottom line. After pausing a minute to process the emotions, adopt a learning mindset and get curious. Analyze your data and ask yourself some questions. What went wrong and where? Was there a breakdown in communication? Did the client’s needs or expectations change unexpectedly? Get past the symptoms to pinpoint the root causes so you can prevent similar issues in the future. Take what you learn and apply it to the rest of your clients. For example, if the client left because what they received from you was wildly different than they expected, that indicates you may want to adjust your communication process with your other clients.

Denied the Promotion

You invested your time, energy, attention, and money into developing your skills and all that still was not enough to get the promotion you expected. Again, give yourself a moment to feel your disappointment, then get proactive. Seek feedback from your manager to understand why you weren’t selected. Was it lack of skills? Were the projects you worked on not visible enough to senior leadership? Do you need a sponsor? Determine which variables were in your control and fix those. Be open to constructive criticism and use it as a roadmap for next steps. Identify skills your organization values and strengthen those. Build relationships with people who will champion your work. Publicly committing to bounce back after this disappointment impresses your managers, inspires your coworkers, and makes you a more competitive candidate in the next round of promotions.

Festering disappointment can poison your work environment and stifle your personal growth. Overcoming it requires a combination of self-awareness, proactive communication, and resilience. You have to choose over and over again to control your emotions. With the right mindset and strategies like addressing issues head-on, learning from setbacks, and finding ways to turn negative circumstances into opportunities, you will emerge stronger.

What disappointments have you experienced at work? Please share how you overcame them in the comments.

Cover Your Assets

Cybercriminals are increasingly sophisticated. As technology advances, so do the tactics they use to steal your identity during tax season. Since the consequences of not filing income taxes are rather unpleasant, how can you prevent becoming a victim?

File Early

The Internal Revenue Service (IRS) encourages early filing as a preventive measure against identity theft and tax fraud. When you file early, you reduce the window of opportunity for scammers to impersonate you. Consider filing your taxes as soon as you receive all your statements like: W-2s, 1099s, and tax deduction records. Here is a full list. If a cybercriminal steals enough of your Personally Identifiable Information, (PII) then they can use it to impersonate you, file tax returns, and claim your refunds. You can beat them to the punch by submitting your legitimate returns as soon as possible. This also allows you to address any discrepancies on your return with the IRS before fraudsters can exploit them.

If Someone Files for You

If you choose to enlist the help of a tax preparer, ask them about their data protection practices. How do they ensure the security of your PII? When a tax professional fills out your return, you have to trust them with most of your personal and financial data, so do your research. Read reviews and get referrals from people you trust. Does the tax preparer comply with industry standards and regulations regarding the handling of sensitive financial information? What are their professional certifications? Are they members of reputable organizations, such as the National Association of Tax Professionals or the American Institute of Certified Public Accountants? While not a guarantee, these affiliations expect adherence to strict ethical standards and data protection guidelines. When you do select a tax professional, before turning over any PII, ask about their security measures for safeguarding client information. A trustworthy tax preparer should have strong data protection policies like encryption protocols, secure file storage, and restricted access to client files.

If You File Your Own

Network: When filing your taxes online, make sure to use a secure and password-protected internet connection. Do not use public Wi-Fi networks to file. They are notorious for their lax security measures. Hackers love taking advantage of them.

Software: Make sure your computer’s operating system, antivirus software, and tax preparation software are up to date. Regular updates often include security patches that protect against known vulnerabilities.

Passwords: Use complex passwords for your online tax accounts, and avoid using the same password across multiple platforms. You know the drill. Your password should contain an uppercase letter, a number, a special character, and a haiku. Just kidding. A combination of letters, numbers, and special characters will do the job.

Authentication: Many tax preparation platforms offer Multi-Factor Authentication for an added layer of security. Even if it means waiting for a code to arrive on your mobile device, it is better to be patient than hacked.

Phishing: Think before you click on links or open attachments to emails whose subject lines say they are about your tax filings. Phishing scams mimic official communication from tax authorities and look extremely authentic. They can deceive you into unwittingly and unwillingly disclosing your PII.

How will you safeguard your PII this tax season? Please share in the comments.

Optimization Obsessed

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We often talk about continuous improvement in this space because making processes better is a good thing. But too much of a good thing is still too much. When does optimization reach the tipping point?

It’s a Tool

Optimization is neither inherently good nor bad. It is a powerful tool to streamline operations and enhance productivity. As with any tool, its effectiveness depends on how you use it. Optimization requires new projects to fit within an existing standardization model. That improves your efficiency, but it can also dilute the qualities that set you apart from your competition. Plus, you can only scale so big before the individuality and personal connections that define your company start to diminish.

The Human Touch

Optimization is about control and eliminatIng waste to achieve the best possible outcomes. But when every interaction is governed by predetermined algorithms, the spontaneity and warmth of human interaction can get lost in translation. Clients may feel like a number in a system instead of valued customers. Clients look for more than products and services. They also want connection, empathy, and understanding. Building and maintaining relationships, meeting individual needs, and providing tailored solutions are elements that cannot be fully replicated by automated systems.

Let It Rest

Rest is as crucial to job performance as training. Tired minds make mistakes and lack the compassion crucial to client interactions. The relentless pursuit of continuous improvement can both overwhelm and burnout your workforce. Implementing strategies to promote employees’ well-being is essential both for morale and sustainable optimization. For example, encourage managers to model work-life integration, support your staff’s self-care efforts, and provide opportunities for breaks and bonding. Your business is not a machine that can run continuously without pause. It is a collective of individuals whose well-being directly impacts the success of your organization. Lack of down time makes systems more fragile. Factor time to recharge into your optimization processes.

Strike a Balance

Limiting your company to just delivering products or services will put you out of business. You need to create an experience that resonates with your clients on a personal level. Decreased client satisfaction, disengaged employees, and a loss of innovation are signs that your optimization has gone too far. To course correct, seek feedback from both clients and employees on a regular basis.

Clients: If the data shows clients perceive a decline in the quality of their service, ask your team: Are we sacrificing the human touch for the sake of efficiency? Are we neglecting the unique needs and preferences of our clients in favor of standardization? How many Account Executives received praise from their clients in the last month? Build flexibility within your processes to allow time for stakeholder customization and care.

Employees: Listen to your team without judgement and make sure they know there will not be negative repercussions for their honesty. Note their concerns. If they say they feel like robots, or if burnout becomes pervasive, then the personal touch may be slipping away. Recognize the value of diversity and belonging. The resulting input can help mitigate the depersonalizing side effects of optimization. Evaluate your systems regularly and recalibrate them to allow for as much customization as makes sense. Regular check-ins, open communication channels, and fostering a positive workplace culture speed up your optimization efforts.

How do you maintain perpetually balancing between efficiency and empathy? Please share in the comments.

Toil and Trouble

This is part three of four in the series: Independently Owned and Operated.

Owning the consequences of your decisions is a cornerstone of successful leadership. It is a necessary step on the path of career advancement. But what about owning the consequences of decisions you did not make? What do you do when trouble finds you?

Responsibility

Everyone has hurdles, setbacks, and challenges. Some you bring on yourself. Plenty of others stem from external factors beyond your control. These are the moments your true character is revealed. However the challenge began, taking responsibility for the outcome indicates you are a resilient and self-aware leader. When you take responsibility for solving a problem you did not create, your colleagues see that you are committed to overcoming the challenge rather than blame the cause of it. And your managers see they can rely on you to address trouble head-on no matter where it comes from. Habitually handling trouble this way helps you generate the trust and transparency necessary for a collaborative and productive work environment.

Accountability

In a fast-paced work environment, errors occur despite your best intentions and planning. It is how you respond to these mistakes that defines your commitment to ownership. Rather than deflecting blame or making excuses, being accountable demonstrates you are willing to learn and grow from the experience. Maybe your project is plagued by unforeseen obstacles. Maybe that sparks tension among your team members. Maybe this sets in motion a series of unfortunate events beyond your control. You may be tempted to play the victim or act out in frustration. Instead, acknowledge the trouble and own the current reality. It empowers you to reclaim control of the situation and enlist your coworkers’ help in overcoming the obstacle. When the crisis is fixed dwell on what happened just long enough to identify any lessons you can learn from it. Seek feedback from both your team and stakeholders. Combine what you learn about the problem, solution, and result. Leverage the input to set a trigger to prevent that particular trouble from tripping the team up in the future. Owning the results helps you develop a mindset of continuous improvement.

Integrity

Owning accountability for results requires the emotional intelligence to both accept praise when things go well and shoulder the burden when they don’t. Learning from trouble requires humility and a willingness to confront your shortcomings with honesty and ethical conduct. Ethical dilemmas are everywhere in the workplace. Your team’s competing interests and values are constantly colliding. Business moves at the speed of trust. You, your managers, and your coworkers must be able to trust each other in order to get anything done. When faced with trouble of this sort, draw on your principles of empathy, fairness, and respect. Do not compromise your values for a short-term gain. It may be uncomfortable to stand firm in the face of conflict, but integrity is a non-negotiable aspect of professional conduct. It lays the foundation for your long-term success as a leader.

What do you do when trouble finds you at work? Please share in the comments.

Bad Blood

This is part two of four in the series: Independently Owned and Operated.

Disagreement over project management, differences in communication styles, and defensive personalities impact people, processes, and profits. When you let go of minor clashes with coworkers you prevent negative energy from impeding productivity for the entire team. But what do you do when you have ongoing conflict with a coworker?

Flip the Script

Conflict is inevitable in any workplace and it’s not always bad. If you expect it, then you are ready to do your part to constructively resolve it. Frame conflict in your mind as a learning opportunity. One of your most powerful tools to disrupt destructive patterns of conflict is active listening. When a conflict sparks, emotions run high, and communication breaks down. By actively listening to your teammate (make eye contact, nod in acknowledgment, paraphrase what you heard, and say it back to them) you demonstrate empathy and a genuine desire to understand their perspective. This not only ensures clarity, it also deescalates emotion. Take ownership of your part in the conflict. This is not an admission of guilt. It’s a declaration of empowerment. It demonstrates you have agency to shape the outcome. After actively listening to your coworker’s position, communicate your position in 30 seconds or less. Use “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, say “I feel frustrated when…” instead of “You always do…” Receive their feedback as objectively as possible.

Walk a Mile

Put yourself in your teammate’s shoes. What is driving their behavior? What do they have at stake? Understanding their motivation helps you find common ground. Conflict resolution is not about winning or losing. It’s about working together to move forward. Acknowledge, assume, and appreciate that you both want the best solution to the conflict. If they did not care, then there would not be conflict so get curious. Is it possible to collaborate for a win-win outcome? Can merging your different perspectives address the root cause of your on-going conflict? It’s likely the solution you reach together will be stronger than a solution either of you will achieve on your own.

Recruit a Referee

You may not be able to resolve on-going conflict on your own. When it seems insurmountable, it’s time to bring in a neutral third party, like your manager or someone from HR. Ask them to facilitate a structured conversation. This needs to be a safe space for open communication and a confidential discussion. Do not jump to conclusions or assign blame. Do acknowledge your part in the situation and ask for honest feedback. The third party is removed from the emotion of the conflict and they have a higher-level view of it than both you and your teammate. This, combined with their experience, enables them to give you new ideas for resolution.

Continuous Improvement

Every conflict offers opportunity for personal and professional growth. Make time to reflect on the conflict resolution process. What worked well? What could be improved? What do you wish you’d done or said? What do you wish you had not done or said? Use each experience to refine your skills. Conflicts don’t have to be roadblocks. You can make them stepping stones to success.

Are you in conflict with a coworker? How are you working through it? Please share in the comments.

Beginnerhood

This is part one of four in a series titled: Independently Owned and Operated.

Whether you are upskilling or taking on increased responsibility, your success hinges on tolerating the discomfort of being bad at doing something new long enough to get good at it. How does owning your beginnerhood help you achieve your goals?

Learning a New Skill

Beginnerhood is an unavoidable phase in pursuit of any skill. For example, when you first learn to code, you write the source code, then compile, link, and execute it over and over again until you get the result you want. It doesn’t take long to get both stuck and frustrated. If you remind yourself this phase is temporary, then you realize the discomfort will eventually go away because mastery comes from practice. Don’t shy away from trying new things because you are afraid to fail. Live in the discomfort long enough to learn from it.

Taking on Increased Responsibility

Whether it’s leading a team, handling larger projects, or managing important accounts, initially you will feel uncertain and maybe inadequate. To be successful, be humble. Acknowledge your initial shortcomings and state your desire to learn quickly. You will make mistakes. When they happen, frame them in your mind, and in your status reports, as part of your process for getting better every day. You are expected to stumble. You are also expected to persevere through challenges. You will not immediately have all the answers. Seek input from your teammates. Being vulnerable with them builds trust.

Overnight Success is a Myth

We all want instant gratification, so we think being bad at something is a setback. Expecting instant mastery is not only unrealistic but can also be a significant barrier to your professional development. The temptation to quit shortly after beginning can be strong. Pat yourself on the back every time you take the next step in doing something new. It helps get you through the awkwardness of your early attempts.

The Power of Resilience

Resilience is an underrated power skill. It’s the secret sauce of success. When you get discouraged by missteps, frame each stumble as a valuable lesson. Instead of seeing it as a deficiency, use it as a stepping stone. Bouncing back from initial failures and learning from those mistakes builds the strength you need to overcome future obstacles. Resilience doesn’t come from a string of unbroken successes. It comes from rising after every fall. Normalize setbacks so that you view them as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable obstacles.

Cultivating a Growth Mindset

When you use these tools, you cultivate a growth mindset. You believe you can develop your abilities through dedication and hard work. This perspective transforms anxiety into excitement. You welcome challenges because they are opportunities to stretch your abilities and expand your skills. Successful people own their beginnerhood and workplaces can play a pivotal role in encouraging a growth mindset. When you focus on effort, perseverance, and resilience you create an environment where the team feels empowered to tackle new challenges without the fear of being judged.

Are you going through a beginnerhood? How are you handling the discomfort? Please share in the comments.

Working 5 to 9

If you received an inheritance, have passive income, or won the Powerball, yay you! But plenty of people seek additional employment to pay bills. Whether you refer to it as a side hustle, moonlighting, or a gig, as of April 2023, 39 % of Americans have one. Why do employees work side gigs? Why are employers concerned when an employee has one? What can both do to alleviate those concerns?

Why Employees Work Side Gigs

Finances – The cost of living keeps going up and as of March 2023, only 87 % of full-time private industry workers had access to medical care benefits. Self-funding health insurance, retirement, upskilling, etc., may not be possible with income from one full-time job.

Passion – The gig economy offers possibilities for personal growth. For example, maybe you are a teacher who loves baking and you have a side hustle making special occasion cakes. Experiments combining flavors and coming up with original designs is a creative outlet.

Development – A side gig is an opportunity to develop additional skills. For example, maybe you are a software developer who loves writing and you have a side hustle blogging for a website. Sharing your knowledge can establish you as a subject matter expert.

Why Employers Get Concerned

Conflict – An employee may end up working on projects that directly compete with yours. This results in divided loyalty and compromises the employee’s ability to prioritize and dedicate their full attention to the work they do for you. There is a risk that the knowledge, skills, or innovations they gained working for you could contribute to a competitor’s success.

Liability – If an employee’s side gig is in a similar industry or involves activities that could potentially harm the company’s reputation, you may be responsible for any consequences including financial repercussions.

Productivity – Employees with side hustles may find themselves stretched thin, leading to a decline in overall job satisfaction and eventually burnout. Side gigs may create tension among team members, especially if some employees feel burdened with extra responsibilities or perceive others as not fully committed to the team’s goals. This makes retaining your employees difficult.

How Both Can Come Together

Communicate – Employers should establish clear boundaries and written guidelines to ensure side gigs do not interfere with job responsibilities, deadlines, or the cohesion of the team. This will help maintain trust and prevent misunderstandings. Speaking openly of the side gig in regular check-in meetings promotes accountability.

Motivate – Employers can reap certain advantages from employees with side gigs. So, it’s crucial employers understand why their employee has one. Employees actively pursuing their passions outside of work find renewed inspiration and creativity. This positively impacts their job performance and helps employers retain a diverse and engaged workforce.

Innovate – Employers can embrace the concept of “intrapreneurship.” When employees channel their entrepreneurial spirit within the organization, employers can grow a dynamic and forward-thinking workplace culture. Employees with side gigs often bring new skills and experiences to their primary roles, fostering an environment of innovation and adaptability within the workplace.

Employers have legitimate reservations about their workforce engaging in side gigs. It’s essential to recognize that not all side gigs pose a threat to the employer-employee relationship. The nature of work evolves daily and business moves at the speed of trust. Tools like communication, empathy, and flexibility are necessary to help your organization thrive.

Do you have both a full-time job and a side gig? How do you make that work? Please share in the comments.

All Your Call

What does self-care mean to you? Is it a spa day? Is it organizing your desk? Is it playing Baldur’s Gate 3? Self-care is intentionally preserving and enhancing your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health and well-being. For you, a spa day may be the perfect self-care ritual. For your work bestie, taking time to declutter their workspace is self-care. For another coworker, choosing their own adventure in a role-playing video game is self-care. What works for you may not resonate with your teammates. Tune into your unique needs and make choices that align with your well-being.

Taking time for self-care can make you feel guilty, but prioritizing your health is not a luxury. It is the foundation of healthy work-life integration. Discovering your unique self-care routine is a process of trial and error. Explore different activities and be open to reassess what truly brings you both joy and balance. Here are some suggestions.

Meditate: Use a guided meditation app, deep-breathing exercise, or find a quiet space and write a 250 word reflection. Taking a few moments each day to practice mindful meditation can help calm your mind, reduce stress, and improve overall mental well-being.

Exercise: Whether it’s going for a walk, attending a fitness class, or practicing yoga, exercise not only promotes physical health and good sleep but also releases endorphins. These are “feel-good” hormones that positively impact your mood. Regular physical activity uses your body to take care of your mind.

Sleep: Speaking of sleep, sufficient and quality sleep is a highly underrated form of self-care. Try to go to bed at the same time every night and get up at the same time every day. Create a comfortable environment by adjusting the room temperature, noise level, amount of light, and all the variables that help you get an adequate amount of rest each night.

Detox: Take a break from the constant influx of information from your digital devices. Put your screens away an hour before bedtime and read a book. Avoid social media for a weekend. A digital detox increases your mental clarity and reduces your stress.

Create: Paint, build a model pirate ship, or play a musical instrument. Whatever your outlet for self-expression and emotional release is, make time for it. Such activities are therapeutic. They allow you to process your emotions and tap into a part of yourself that your work-life responsibilities may not use.

Nourish: Fill your body with high quality fuel. Replace that doughnut with blueberries and low-fat yogurt. Go meatless for one meal a week. Instead of snacking on potato chips, try almonds. Take time to read nutrition labels. When you consume food and drinks that are low in simple carbohydrates and sugar you are literally taking care of yourself.

Connect: Maintain key relationships. You can hang out in-person, videoconference, text, or call. Whatever medium allows you to spend time with the people you love helps you maintain a sense of belonging, support, and emotional fulfillment.

The next time you wonder, “Is this self-care?” remember that you get to make that decision guided by your unique needs, desires, and understanding of what makes you feel well. You may find extra time on your hands this week between Christmas and New Year’s Day. If so, please use it to do something that makes you feel good. Even if that something is nothing at all.

What will you do to take time for yourself this holiday season? Please share in the comments.