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Working 5 to 9

If you received an inheritance, have passive income, or won the Powerball, yay you! But plenty of people seek additional employment to pay bills. Whether you refer to it as a side hustle, moonlighting, or a gig, as of April 2023, 39 % of Americans have one. Why do employees work side gigs? Why are employers concerned when an employee has one? What can both do to alleviate those concerns?

Why Employees Work Side Gigs

Finances – The cost of living keeps going up and as of March 2023, only 87 % of full-time private industry workers had access to medical care benefits. Self-funding health insurance, retirement, upskilling, etc., may not be possible with income from one full-time job.

Passion – The gig economy offers possibilities for personal growth. For example, maybe you are a teacher who loves baking and you have a side hustle making special occasion cakes. Experiments combining flavors and coming up with original designs is a creative outlet.

Development – A side gig is an opportunity to develop additional skills. For example, maybe you are a software developer who loves writing and you have a side hustle blogging for a website. Sharing your knowledge can establish you as a subject matter expert.

Why Employers Get Concerned

Conflict – An employee may end up working on projects that directly compete with yours. This results in divided loyalty and compromises the employee’s ability to prioritize and dedicate their full attention to the work they do for you. There is a risk that the knowledge, skills, or innovations they gained working for you could contribute to a competitor’s success.

Liability – If an employee’s side gig is in a similar industry or involves activities that could potentially harm the company’s reputation, you may be responsible for any consequences including financial repercussions.

Productivity – Employees with side hustles may find themselves stretched thin, leading to a decline in overall job satisfaction and eventually burnout. Side gigs may create tension among team members, especially if some employees feel burdened with extra responsibilities or perceive others as not fully committed to the team’s goals. This makes retaining your employees difficult.

How Both Can Come Together

Communicate – Employers should establish clear boundaries and written guidelines to ensure side gigs do not interfere with job responsibilities, deadlines, or the cohesion of the team. This will help maintain trust and prevent misunderstandings. Speaking openly of the side gig in regular check-in meetings promotes accountability.

Motivate – Employers can reap certain advantages from employees with side gigs. So, it’s crucial employers understand why their employee has one. Employees actively pursuing their passions outside of work find renewed inspiration and creativity. This positively impacts their job performance and helps employers retain a diverse and engaged workforce.

Innovate – Employers can embrace the concept of “intrapreneurship.” When employees channel their entrepreneurial spirit within the organization, employers can grow a dynamic and forward-thinking workplace culture. Employees with side gigs often bring new skills and experiences to their primary roles, fostering an environment of innovation and adaptability within the workplace.

Employers have legitimate reservations about their workforce engaging in side gigs. It’s essential to recognize that not all side gigs pose a threat to the employer-employee relationship. The nature of work evolves daily and business moves at the speed of trust. Tools like communication, empathy, and flexibility are necessary to help your organization thrive.

Do you have both a full-time job and a side gig? How do you make that work? Please share in the comments.

All Your Call

What does self-care mean to you? Is it a spa day? Is it organizing your desk? Is it playing Baldur’s Gate 3? Self-care is intentionally preserving and enhancing your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health and well-being. For you, a spa day may be the perfect self-care ritual. For your work bestie, taking time to declutter their workspace is self-care. For another coworker, choosing their own adventure in a role-playing video game is self-care. What works for you may not resonate with your teammates. Tune into your unique needs and make choices that align with your well-being.

Taking time for self-care can make you feel guilty, but prioritizing your health is not a luxury. It is the foundation of healthy work-life integration. Discovering your unique self-care routine is a process of trial and error. Explore different activities and be open to reassess what truly brings you both joy and balance. Here are some suggestions.

Meditate: Use a guided meditation app, deep-breathing exercise, or find a quiet space and write a 250 word reflection. Taking a few moments each day to practice mindful meditation can help calm your mind, reduce stress, and improve overall mental well-being.

Exercise: Whether it’s going for a walk, attending a fitness class, or practicing yoga, exercise not only promotes physical health and good sleep but also releases endorphins. These are “feel-good” hormones that positively impact your mood. Regular physical activity uses your body to take care of your mind.

Sleep: Speaking of sleep, sufficient and quality sleep is a highly underrated form of self-care. Try to go to bed at the same time every night and get up at the same time every day. Create a comfortable environment by adjusting the room temperature, noise level, amount of light, and all the variables that help you get an adequate amount of rest each night.

Detox: Take a break from the constant influx of information from your digital devices. Put your screens away an hour before bedtime and read a book. Avoid social media for a weekend. A digital detox increases your mental clarity and reduces your stress.

Create: Paint, build a model pirate ship, or play a musical instrument. Whatever your outlet for self-expression and emotional release is, make time for it. Such activities are therapeutic. They allow you to process your emotions and tap into a part of yourself that your work-life responsibilities may not use.

Nourish: Fill your body with high quality fuel. Replace that doughnut with blueberries and low-fat yogurt. Go meatless for one meal a week. Instead of snacking on potato chips, try almonds. Take time to read nutrition labels. When you consume food and drinks that are low in simple carbohydrates and sugar you are literally taking care of yourself.

Connect: Maintain key relationships. You can hang out in-person, videoconference, text, or call. Whatever medium allows you to spend time with the people you love helps you maintain a sense of belonging, support, and emotional fulfillment.

The next time you wonder, “Is this self-care?” remember that you get to make that decision guided by your unique needs, desires, and understanding of what makes you feel well. You may find extra time on your hands this week between Christmas and New Year’s Day. If so, please use it to do something that makes you feel good. Even if that something is nothing at all.

What will you do to take time for yourself this holiday season? Please share in the comments.

The Catch

Here in the technology space there is a lot of murmuring around unlimited Paid Time Off (PTO) as an employment benefit. As of October 1, 2023, 43.16% of job listings in the technology sector offered unlimited PTO. Is it the answer to better work-life integration and increased job satisfaction?

Employers

Productivity: You want to enhance employee well-being, but unlimited PTO inherently carries the risk of abuse. A sudden surge in leave requests can halt delivery on a contract. Traditional PTO policies provide structure for you to manage workloads effectively. With unlimited PTO, how do you both anticipate and mitigate potential gaps in staffing? How does this unpredictability affect project timelines?

Policy: The absence of a clear legal framework can lead to potential disputes with your workforce. The United States does not legally require paid time off for workers, so it is a business expense for companies that offer PTO to employees. Unlimited PTO must have an expiration date so you can budget. Many states expect businesses to pay out earned time off when an employee leaves the organization. In August, CBS News reported that American companies are carrying about $224 billion in liability for employees’ unused PTO. If employees are not earning PTO, then companies do not have to pay them for what they do not use. How will you address employees’ expectations of getting paid for unused unlimited PTO?

Employees

Panic: How do you know how much time off is too much? Last March, Forbes found that employees with unlimited PTO only take 10 days off annually. Why? Fear, too much work to do, and pressure from their managers because of the timing. When employers do not have rules around PTO, every request is a negotiation and instead of a contractual term of employment, time off becomes a moral issue. Can the company afford to pay you to not work? If your manager thinks you take too much time off, does that negatively impact your next promotion?

Peers: You may feel compelled to match your teams’ work habits. But accumulating significant amounts of unused time off can lead to burnout. Do your coworkers grumble about filling in for you? Will you be labeled a slacker if you take extended time off?

Both

Expectations: The goal is to balance the employer’s need for productivity and the employee’s desire for flexibility. Establish transparent guidelines outlining expectations for both individual contributors and managers. Clearly communicate that taking time off is not only acceptable but also encouraged for maintaining healthy boundaries.

Check-In: Schedule regular check-ins to assess workloads, stress levels, and job satisfaction. Encourage open communication between teams and managers to address concerns and prevent burnout.

Train: Equip managers and individual contributors to effectively navigate the challenges of unlimited PTO policies. Help supervisors acquire skills to manage workloads, plan for time-off coverage, and create an environment that values both productivity and employee well-being. Clearly communicate unlimited PTO policies to your workforce.

Adjust: Conduct periodic reviews of the unlimited PTO policy to assess its impact on productivity and employee satisfaction. Employers need to be willing to continuously improve the policy based on employee feedback and changing organizational needs.

While unlimited PTO seems like a perfect solution to work-life integration, it comes with its own set of challenges. Striking the right balance between flexibility and productivity requires thoughtful implementation, clear communication, and a commitment from both employers and employees to make it work.

Does your organization offer unlimited PTO? Please share your experience using it in the comments.

Reimagine Compensation

The United States Internal Revenue Service defines full-time employment in terms of hours. Their standard is an average of 30 hours per week or 130 hours per month. You can sit at a desk for those hours and wait for the email notification to ding, but is that productive? If you secure a new customer over a lunch hour, do you have to work another 39 hours that week?

Tradition

Rooted in the labor movements of the 19th and early 20th centuries, the 40-hour work week was established to protect workers from exploitation, ensure work-life balance, and promote economic stability. Technology, remote and hybrid work arrangements, and a shift in how we measure productivity, makes this rigid structure unsuitable for a wide range of jobs and industries.

Transformation

Employees are increasingly prioritizing autonomy while employers are increasingly recognizing the value of results over hours logged. The result is transforming the way employees are compensated. Instead of being paid solely for the number of hours worked, employees can be compensated based on their skills, the networks they bring to the organization, and the outcomes they deliver. For example, freelancers, gig workers, and project-based contractors are compensated for completing tasks, the quality of their output, delivering specific results, and the impact on the organization’s success, rather than for a set number of hours worked. This approach aligns more closely with the idea that the value an employee provides to the organization is not solely a function of their time, but the quality and impact of their work. We talked a couple of months ago about how being busy is not a reflection of productivity. With the aid of technology, it is now easier to track and assess work progress and results, no matter where, when, or how an employee chooses to work. Key performance indicators (KPIs), project milestones, and deliverables are more significant in assessing an employee’s productivity rather than the mere number of hours spent at a desk.

Transition

In a traditional office setting, it’s easier to monitor and manage employee performance, but in the age of remote work, new methods and tools are required to maintain accountability. Here are some basics.

Trust and Flexibility: While accountability is essential, micromanaging erodes trust and hinders productivity. A results-oriented approach, where employees are given the autonomy to manage their own work, can be highly effective.
Clear Expectations: Work together to define realistic goals, deadlines, and deliverables. Then evaluate employees based on objective performance metrics like goal achievement, quality of work, and impact on the organization.
Technology and Tools: Time-tracking software, project management platforms, and communication tools are invaluable for keeping remote workers on track. Frequent check-ins, whether through video calls, phone conversations, or written updates, can help maintain both connection and accountability. These interactions allow employees to discuss progress and challenges, and receive feedback and guidance.

The demise of the 40-hour work week is not the end of structured work but a transformation that better aligns with the demands and opportunities of the modern workplace. As remote and hybrid work arrangements become more prevalent, a new model of compensation and productivity measurement emphasizing flexibility, autonomy, and results ultimately benefits both employees and employers.

If you are not paid for your time, then by what measure do you get paid? Please share in the comments.

Overthinking is Scary

Mom texted me a photo of a new shirt she bought. The caption on the front says, “Hold on, let me overthink this.” It’s perfect for Halloween. What’s more scary than your imagination?

Overthinking is like overcooking. When you overcook something its quality decreases and it doesn’t taste as good as it would have if you hadn’t overcooked it. As you attempt to make the best decisions and achieve your worklife goals, how do you avoid getting trapped in the web of excessive overthinking? Let’s talk about how to recognize overthinking and ways to stop.

Symptoms

Dwelling on a single situation to the point where it becomes counterproductive
Ruminating on past events
Second-, third, and/or fourth-guessing your choices
Dissecting every possible aspect of a problem
Having trouble focusing on the job at hand
A persistent knot in your stomach and/or a constant low-grade headache
Making decisions, even simple ones, feels overwhelming
Lack of self-confidence
Negative self-image
Questioning the intentions of your coworkers
Perpetually seeking validation from your manager

Strategies

Goals: Having a clear sense of purpose can help you stay focused and reduce the temptation to overthink. What can you do right now to get closer to your objectives? For example, if your goal is to move from inside sales to account management, then befriend an account manager. Some action steps may be identifying a mentor, scheduling an informational interview, and requesting a ride along.
Limits: Allocate a specific amount of time to think about a particular issue then commit to making a decision within that timeframe. This forces you to be more efficient in your thinking.
Mindfulness: Techniques like meditation and box breathing can help you stay grounded, reduce the urge to overanalyze, and help you manage stress.
Reflection: Seeing what you’re thinking helps you redirect your thoughts. When you get the fear out of your head and onto the page, it shrinks.
Feedback: Getting input from trusted teammates or your supervisor regarding complex decisions can provide valuable perspectives and help you make more informed choices. Save this strategy for decisions that will result in having a big impact.
Process: Develop a systematic approach to decision-making. List your options, weigh the pros and cons, and set a deadline for making choices.
Data: You have access to an overwhelming amount of information. Be selective about the data you consume, and avoid endlessly researching a topic.
Move: Physical activity clears your mind and reduces your stress.
Kindness: Instead of berating yourself for overthinking, acknowledge it as a habit you’re working to change. Self-compassion can help you break free from the cycle of self-criticism.

It’s essential to think critically and make informed decisions but excessive analysis erodes your productivity and well-being. Control your thought processes by recognizing the symptoms of overthinking and implementing strategies to overcome it. Balance thoughtful consideration with taking action. Sometimes, the best way to move forward is to simply take that first step without overthinking it.

What do you overthink about at work? Please share in the comments.

A Good Thing

Last week we talked about adjusting our mindsets to use setbacks as pushes forward in the workplace. What could possibly go wrong? Well, too much of a good thing is still too much. If you feel compelled to continually demonstrate your value, even at the expense of your well-being, then you risk falling prey to a performance-prove mindset.

Do you feel an insatiable need for external validation? Do you have a deep-seated fear of failure? Do you make decisions that prioritize immediate success over long-term sustainability? Asking for a friend.

You are constantly under pressure to deliver results, meet targets, and drive success. While setting high standards and striving for excellence is essential, an obsessive need to constantly prove your worth through unrelenting performance hurts you, your team, and your organization. How can you tell if you have a performance-prove mindset? If you have it, how do you change it?

How You Can Tell

Burnout: Do you work long hours, neglect your self-care, ignore signs of stress and/or push through exhaustion? This not only harms your health, but also sets a damaging example for your team. These behaviors signal a burnout culture and toxic work environment.

Rut: Are you solely focused on existing methods and strategies? When is the last time you tried a solution someone on your team suggested? A performance-prove mindset often smothers innovation and creativity within an organization. It can result in failure to adapt to changing market dynamics.

Risk: Are you reluctant to take calculated risks? Are you afraid that any undesired outcome will be perceived as personal inadequacy? Risk aversion stifles your career growth and hinders your company’s ability to seize new opportunities.

Trust: Do you prioritize personal recognition over the well-being of your team? Trust is essential for effective leadership.

Short-Term: Are your decisions mostly about immediate performance metrics? When is the last time you considered how they impact the bigger picture? How often do you pay attention to your company’s reputation, customer trust, and employee satisfaction? Thinking exclusively about short-term goals endangers the sustainability of your business.

Stagnant: Do you regularly set aside time for self-reflection, upskilling, and personal development? Not doing so is an easy way to get in a cycle of proving yourself instead of continuous improvement.

What You Can Do

Focus: Align your actions with your company’s vision and/or mission statement. These touchstones should drive decision making for every employee. Doing so lessens the need for external validation, because you already know what your leaders want.

Delegate: Empower your team to own tasks and decisions. Delegating responsibility not only relieves the burden of constant performance but also fosters trust and development among team members. Remember to champion failure as a learning opportunity rather than a personal setback. Encourage a culture that accepts and learns from undesired outcomes so you can stimulate innovation and growth.

Practice: Notice when it’s happening. Regularly set aside time to reflect on why you do what you do and why you feel how you feel. This may be once a month or once a week or even once a day if the situation warrants. Writing a 250 word reflection can help you see what you think. Recognizing the root causes of your performance-prove mindset is the first step to taming it.

Do you attach your self-worth to your job performance? How are you working to change that? Please share in the comments.

Bad Reputation

When you think of Sales, does it conjure up a vision of a used car lot and an overexcited man in an ugly plaid jacket? No? Just me? Okay. As a profession, Sales has a bad reputation. Sales people are stereotypically portrayed as fast talking deceivers.

But, everyone in the workforce is a salesperson even if the word Sales is not in your job title. People associate you with your organization. You have the power to help and hurt your employer. If you enjoy working for your organization, then you will speak highly of it to others. If you don’t, you won’t, and people notice both. For example, let’s say you are a hygienist for a family-owned small dental practice. The next time your friend from the gym has a toothache, will they call your office because you speak so highly of it? Or will they avoid it because you complain?

For this conversation, let’s pretend you are the hygienist mentioned above. You like your job well enough to speak favorably about it and you are not in a sales role. Your success not only depends on your performance, but also on a steady stream of patients. How can you help the business grow even though you are not responsible for attracting patients?

Relationships

Sales skills are communication and caring skills. In our hygienist scenario, you do not have sales goals to meet. This gives you the luxury of being able to take as much time as you want getting to know people and when they need dental services, they will call you. So, when you have face time with friends and family, listen intently and actively. Put your phone upside down on the table and look them in the eye. Do not interrupt their story. When they pause for your response, wait a second to indicate you really heard them, then ask an insightful follow up question to prove it. Great questions lead to great answers. Even just a, “Say more, please,” demonstrates your interest and empathy. When people feel listened to, they feel understood and validated. When they feel understood and validated, they like you. When they like you, they trust you and business moves at the speed of trust.

Experience

When it’s your turn to talk about yourself, it’s natural to talk about your work. In our hygienist example, you may have an anecdote about a one-year-old child’s first trip to the dentist and how you made them feel so at ease they did not want to leave. Then ask your friend what is going on at their workplace. This prompts them to share a success story too. The positive conversation makes you both want to have future interaction, so be sure to follow up. Strive to make people feel comfortable and respected. Show you care about them as a person. Take opportunities to tell stories of how people feel safe with you and how your organization makes their lives both better and easier.

Honesty

Being honest is integral to building relationships and establishing it takes time. Think about a potential client. If you were in their shoes, how would you want to get to know your product or service? What would make you feel respected during the customer journey? In our hygienist example, if you are having coffee with a friend and they mention they are embarrassed by their coffee-stained teeth, do you have a story about a happy customer who had whitening done? Can you suggest an over-the-counter solution they can try first? You aren’t selling your services, you are solving their problem. Steering someone away from your service actually makes it more attractive. You are proving that you value their relationship more than their money.

How do you feel about attracting people to your organization? Please share in the comments.

Unpleasantly Surprised

Have you ever felt like you’re riding a roller coaster without a seatbelt, blindfolded? That’s the sensation the modern work environment often induces, and there’s a term that sums it up perfectly: VUCA. It is an acronym for Volatile, Uncertain, Complex, and Ambiguous. Understanding and embracing the concept of VUCA can be the key to surviving in the constantly evolving workplace. Let’s breakdown what a VUCA work environment feels like and how to cope with it.

What it Feels Like

Volatile: Imagine waking up every morning not knowing whether the coffee maker will brew a perfect cup or explode. That’s the essence of volatility in the workplace. When change happens faster than you can say “meeting agenda,” then flexibility becomes a core capability.

Uncertain: Imagine a surprise party that never ends. That’s the essence of uncertainty in the workplace. Will your project get a green light? Will your team be reshuffled? Will the strategy you’ve been working on suddenly take a hard left turn? To thrive in this environment, you’ve got to be the MacGyver of adaptability, ready to craft a solution out of a paperclip and a piece of gum.

Complex: Imagine assembling a toddler’s toy with more parts than a Swiss watch. That’s the essence of complexity in the workplace. Departments intertwine like spaghetti, and understanding the big picture is like deciphering hieroglyphs. To conquer complexity, you’ve got to be Velma Dinkley, seeking out clues and patterns while keeping an eye out for the red herrings that can throw you off track.

Ambiguous: Imagine reading a book with pages missing. That’s the essence of ambiguity in the workplace. Ambiguity requires deciphering meaning from bits and bytes of information gathered from multiple channels. You have to piece together what your team is supposed to accomplish from various sources.

How to Cope

Develop a resilient attitude. As Rocky Balboa says, “…it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward;” You will get mentally knocked down. Train your brain to get up again and again and again.

Embrace continuous learning. In a VUCA world, what you know today will be obsolete tomorrow. You have to learn a skill (for example a computer language), use it, unlearn it, learn the next iteration, rinse and repeat. Acquire new knowledge as circumstances shift.

Foster collaboration. Your team is in the same VUCA environment as you are. Collaborate with your colleagues, share insights, and lean on each other’s strengths to create solutions together. Iron sharpens iron. Diverse perspectives cultivate unconventional approaches to problem solving. This is how breakthroughs happen.

Practice self-care. Amidst the chaos, carve out moments of peace and quiet. Celebrate every incremental step toward your goal. You need to refresh to reduce harmful stress and recharge to make accurate decisions.

Embracing the challenges that a VUCA workplace presents can help you become antifragile. Something that is antifragile not only survives but also thrives from coping with adversity.

How do you navigate working in a VUCA environment? Please share in the comments.

Homing from Work

The term “work marriage” has been around since 1987. If you smoothly run a household alongside your partner, then you’ve mastered skills that can be useful in the workplace. It’s normal to transpose your relationships between home and work, but is it a good idea? Let’s explore how we can transfer the skills we learn during long-term romantic relationships to the workplace in a healthy way.

Communication

In both marriage and the workplace, communication can be as clear as mud. For example:

Your spouse signs all your children’s paperwork for school, so you ignore the permission slip sitting on the dining room table. Two days later you receive an angry text from your spouse because they were called to immediately go to the school and sign an emergency permission slip before your first-grader’s class left for the field trip without them.
Translating this to the workplace, your project manager updates all your team’s workflows, so you ignore the change pending your approval sitting in your inbox. You receive an angry email from your manager because you missed a deadline.

In both scenarios what we have here is a failure to communicate resulting in a conflict. The conflict resolution tactics you use with your spouse are also helpful in your work relationships. Address issues promptly, avoid blame games, and seek solutions. It helps to remember that the goal isn’t to win an argument, but to improve the process. Be candid yet respectful and open to feedback. When you think you are over communicating, that is actually about the right amount of communication.

Patience

When you’ve been married long enough, you’ve weathered storms and sat through endless sports matches, spelling bees, and talent shows. Transfer this patience to the workplace, where tight deadlines and forgotten passwords can test your nerves. Exercise your emotional intelligence by remaining calm, refusing to panic, and offering support to your coworkers. There are approaches you use to soothe your spouse and allow them to both decompress and process stressful situations. You can apply these approaches in the workplace. Knowing when to both actively listen and when to offer advice makes you a valuable asset in any relationship. Professional boundaries differ from personal relationships, so be mindful that a little strategy goes a long way. Best practice? Less counseling and more curiosity.

Teamwork

How many times have you and your spouse had to decide on a restaurant or a movie? You have plenty of experience in the art of compromise. Apply this to your workplace interactions, where differing opinions are as common as casual Fridays. Finding middle ground leads to creative solutions and demonstrates your inclination to collaborate. Marriage is a partnership, and so is your office dynamic. Just as you and your partner tackle household chores together, cooperating with colleagues should lead to smoother projects and better results. You’re all working towards a common goal. Add value where you can, appreciate your coworkers’ contributions, and celebrate even the smallest progress.

The communication, patience, and teamwork skills you hone over years of marriage can be a blueprint for managing relationships at work, but tread lightly. Adapt these skills to fit the unique dynamics of your workplace without turning it into an episode of Friends.

How do the skills you use to get along with your partner translate to your work relationships? Please share in the comments.

Site Inspection

Last week, we looked at some ways employers can begin to solve the working remotely challenge. This week, let’s discuss your role. As an employee, you have a few questions to contemplate. Does your organization consider working remotely a privilege or a right? Are you willing to take a pay cut to work remotely? What message are you sending to your managers? Is it clear, kind, and collaborative?

Both employers and employees require communication, empathy, and flexibility to effectively negotiate. This week, let’s think about what constructive steps employees can take to help build a bridge across the working remotely gap.

Communication

Build your case for working remotely. You can include why it is best for you, but put more emphasis on why it benefits both your manager and your organization. For example, working remotely reduces your commute time. This is good for you because it saves you money. It’s good for your manager and your organization because you can spend that time working instead of commuting.
Provide data that supports your case for remote work. Pull up your Atta Baby file. Do you have any documentation of your increased productivity, successful project outcomes, and positive feedback from colleagues and/or clients from March 2020 to the present?
After gathering your evidence, schedule a meeting with your manager. Clearly and calmly present your case. Give brief illustrations of how remote work has positively impacted your work quality, efficiency, and overall well-being. Then actively listen to your manager’s perspective. Understand their reasons for wanting you in the office full-time. This can help you find common ground and empathize with their concerns.

Empathy

If your manager has specific doubts about you working remotely, address them directly. For example, if they’re worried about collaboration, share how you plan to stay connected with colleagues and contribute to team projects while off site.
Highlight how you’ll maintain accountability and meet your metrics. Describe to your manager how you’ll be available, responsive, and productive. For example, someone who emails you with a simple request on a Wednesday at 8:00am can expect a reply from you within thirty minutes.
Be receptive to your manager’s feedback and open to adjusting your proposal based on their input.

Flexibility

Suggest compromises that address both your needs and your manager’s misgivings. How about a hybrid schedule where you’re in the office for certain days or specific team meetings?
Suggest a trial period for this arrangement and ways to both evaluate its effectiveness and make adjustments as needed.
If the conflict remains unresolved, consider involving Human Resources to mediate. They can provide guidance on the interpretation of your organization’s policies.
If you and your manager come to an agreement, document the details in writing to avoid any misunderstandings later.
If you do not reach an agreement, that gives you valuable data. It shows you what your employer expects. It also reveals the conditions under which you are willing to work. You can use this information to make decisions regarding your future with this organization.

The goal is to find a solution that benefits both you and your employer, and meets the needs of your team and your organization. Effective communication and a willingness to compromise are essential for reaching a resolution that everyone can support.

How is working remotely affecting your work life integration? Please share in the comments.