Boundaries Have Consequences

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I received this valuable feedback about last week’s discussion, Overcommitted:
“We think all we have to do is set up a boundary. But people push our boundaries and we have to defend them. That can be uncomfortable with coworkers and career threatening with higher-ups.” 

Thank you for that point! Let’s talk about one of the trickiest situations you’ll face at work: holding boundaries when leadership pushes against them.

Risks and Rewards

Short-Term Discomfort: A manager who’s used to hearing “yes” may interpret a boundary as resistance or lack of commitment. This can feel awkward but that discomfort is temporary. Help them see how your intentionality makes you more reliable and engaged than ever.

Impact on Visibility: You worry about missing out on plum projects or promotions. Stay visible by over communicating progress on your existing priorities. Show that focus equals results. For example, “I’m wrapping up X this week, which should free up space for Y next quarter.” This helps you manage perception as much as workload.

Improved Respect: When you can say, “I’d love to take that on, but I want to make sure I can deliver the quality you expect,” you’re signaling maturity, not obstinance. Strong performers set boundaries because they care about doing things well.

Clarity Around Expectations: Your manager genuinely doesn’t realize the load you’re carrying. Communicating your bandwidth creates an opportunity to clarify what’s most important and what can wait. A respectful reality check helps both of you prioritize smarter.

Long-Term Career Growth: The same boundaries that cause friction early on often pay off later. People who manage their workload wisely are less likely to burn out, make fewer mistakes, and are more trusted with high-stakes projects. Leadership isn’t about taking everything on. It’s about taking on what moves the organization closer to its goals.

When It’s Your Manager Asking

When your manager gives you an assignment, you can’t just shrug and say, “Nope.” But you can negotiate.

When your plate is already full: “I’d love to help, and I want to make sure I’m meeting current deadlines. Can we talk about what should come off my plate if I take this on?” This signals realistic willingness and invites collaboration. You’re cooperating and making trade-offs visible.

When it’s clearly not your responsibility: “That sounds important. Who’s the best person to own that? I can share what’s worked for me in similar situations.” This reframes the request as problem-solving, not avoidance.

When the request is unclear: “Can you help me understand the goal of this task? I want to make sure it aligns with what we’re prioritizing right now.” This helps your manager think about the urgency of the task.

The next time you’re tempted to say yes out of habit, ask yourself: Is this task aligned with my goals? Will saying yes help me grow or just keep me busy? What am I giving up by agreeing to this?

What is a boundary you are glad you held? Please share in the comments. 

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Job titles can open or close doors, but you don’t need formal authority to influence outcomes. You need awareness, initiative, and a willingness to act when others hesitate. Let’s talk about what that looks like at your job.

Leadership Labs

Every project, committee, or collaboration is an opportunity to lead. You don’t have to wait for permission to take ownership. Cross-functional teams are great opportunities to practice leadership skills because they mix perspectives and reward those who bring clarity instead of control. Those micro-moments are where real leadership lives. No title required just the courage to shape how the work happens. For example:

  • When your group gets stuck in endless debate, you propose a timeline to narrow decisions and move forward.
  • When a quiet teammate has a good idea that’s getting lost, you call it out and create space for them to share it.
  • When a colleague lightens the mood during crunch time, you acknowledge that humor and positivity and thank them for keeping the team sane.

Lead from Any Role

Leadership is about mobilizing, connecting dots, removing friction, and helping others succeed. These are actions that make teams function better. The more consistently you do these things, the more people look to you for direction even if your nameplate hasn’t changed. Here are some suggestions:

  • Manage time, not people: When meetings drift, step in gently: “Let’s pick one option to test this week and see what happens.” That’s not bossy, that’s efficient. Teams remember who helps them get unstuck.
  • Make space for others: When one voice dominates, balance it out: “I’d like to hear from Jack and Jill before we decide.” Inclusive leaders listen before they lead. You’ll earn trust by showing you care about the group’s success, not your own image.
  • Clarify next steps: Ambiguity kills progress. Offer structure: “Here’s what I heard. Did I miss anything?” Clear communication turns chaos into action.
  • Own follow-through: Volunteering to take the first draft, summarize the notes, or check a detail isn’t glamorous but it’s what separates reliable contributors from passive ones. Accountability is influence in disguise.

Quiet Power

Leadership looks different today than it did even five years ago. Many workplaces are flatter, and hybrid situations have blurred traditional organizational hierarchies. That means influence often matters more than authority. For example:

  • Visibility does not equal impact. Just because someone talks the most on video calls doesn’t mean they’re leading. The person who determines action items or builds alignment behind the scenes is often the real driver.
  • Psychological safety is greater than authority. The most productive teams succeed because people feel safe speaking up. That doesn’t happen because of titles. It happens because of trust.
  • Connection over control. Leaders understand the value of relationships. They notice when teammates seem disengaged, they ask why, and they pull people back in.

Start Now

The best part of leading without a title is that you can start anytime. You don’t need a reorganization or a raise to step up. You just need to see a problem and decide you’re part of the solution. When you are not in the room, you want coworkers to describe you as dependable, thoughtful, and steady under pressure. Start by noticing where momentum is missing. Ask what your group needs most right now: structure, encouragement, clarity, or connection. Then step up and offer it. That’s what leaders do whether or not it’s in their title. 

What is one thing you can do today to lead from where you are? Please share in the comments.

The Art of Ignoring

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Willpower isn’t just about resisting the urge to check Slack every time it pings. It’s about deliberate focus.

Focus Like a Lens

Think of your attention like the lens in your eye. When you focus on something close, the background blurs. Willpower works the same way. It sharpens your mental focus so one task comes into crystal-clear view while the rest fades away. When you say, “I’m finishing this presentation before lunch,” you’re choosing clarity over clutter. But when you rapidly task switch (multitasking is a myth, btw) like editing slides, checking email, responding to a message from your boss, then you’re trying to keep everything in focus at once. That’s like asking your eyes to look near and far at the same time. You end up not seeing anything clearly.

Try this: Before you start a task, close out everything that’s not essential: browser tabs, Slack channels, your phone. You’ll be amazed how fast your brain clicks into single-focus mode once you remove the background noise.

How to Bend Willpower to Your Will

Willpower is more like a cat than a dog. You can’t force it to show up on demand. However, you can make it easier to access. When you design your environment to make discipline unnecessary, willpower becomes less about fighting temptation and more about removing it.

Try this: Make the right thing easy and the wrong thing hard. For example: Keep healthy snacks visible; hide the candy. Put your phone across the room during meetings. Schedule deep work sessions at your mental peak (for many, that’s mid-morning).

Freedom in What You Don’t Do

Freedom at work doesn’t come from saying yes to everything. It comes from saying no to the wrong things. The freedom to end your day on time. The freedom to take lunch away from your desk. The freedom to leave unread emails… unread. Boundaries create breathing room. Without them, your time gets hijacked by other people’s priorities. True freedom at work is the ability to choose less on purpose.

Try this: Block “do not disturb” hours on your calendar and defend them like the Ukrainian Ironbelly dragon guards the Gringotts Wizarding Bank. You’ll feel your mental space expand almost immediately.

Willpower Needs Rest

Willpower is like a battery. If you drain it all day with constant decisions, nonstop meetings, and endless notifications, then it will fail you when you need it most. But when you rest and recharge, it grows stronger. Rest isn’t laziness; it’s maintenance. Take a walk. Eat lunch without your laptop. End your day instead of letting it fade into night. These aren’t indulgences. They are refueling stops for your brain.

Try this: Treat your focus like your phone battery. When it hits 20%, plug it in. For example, step away for five minutes, stretch, breathe, or just stare out a window. You’ll come back clearer and sharper.

How do you intentionally ignore what doesn’t matter so you can pour your attention into what does? Please share in the comments.

Under Construction

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Reality Check: no matter how smart you are or how much caffeine you consume, you can’t succeed alone. Leadership is less about being the hero and more about building a team of people who can thrive together. When you understand how to assemble and nurture a team, you set the stage for productivity, innovation, and sanity (yours included). Let’s talk about why this matters and how you can build your skills even if you don’t officially manage people.

Why Team Building Matters

Leaders who know how to build teams create environments where people actually want to work, not just log hours on Slack and duck out of Zoom meetings as fast as possible. Here’s what effective team building does:

  • Improves Communication: When trust is high, people stop sending 47 follow-up emails just to confirm what was already said in a meeting.
  • Boosts Motivation and Retention: A good team feels like a place where you belong. That’s why employees stick around longer, even when recruiters are lurking in their LinkedIn DMs.
  • Fosters Innovation: Great ideas don’t come from a vacuum. They come from different brains colliding in the right way.
  • Develops Individual Strengths: A well-built team doesn’t just hit goals. It makes each person better at what they do.

When all of that happens, everyone wins. Your organization gets higher productivity, the team gets better results, and you have fewer Sunday Scaries.

Spotting Your Team’s Types

Every team has personalities you can mentally group into categories. Think of them as archetypes you’ll see again and again. Your job isn’t to “fix” these types. It’s to get them to work together without frustrating each other.

  • The C-Suite: Even if they aren’t in the C-Suite, they act like they are. Confident and decisive, they want control.
  • The Partier: They’re here for the vibes. If there’s a happy hour, they’re organizing it. If there’s a virtual meeting, they’re cracking jokes in the chat.
  • The Networker: This person is a connector. They know someone in every department and always seem to have the right intro at the right time.
  • The Process Improver: They can’t stand inefficiency. Expect comments like, “Why are we doing this in three steps when it could be done in one?”

Who Plays Nice Together and Who Doesn’t

I tell you this truth in love: not everyone meshes. The trick is preventing cliques from forming. That means watching who’s chatting in Slack side channels or dominating Zoom meetings while others stay on mute. Set the tone by calling people in, not out. Some examples:

  • The C-Suite and the Partier often clash. One wants order; the other wants fun. Remind them fun and productivity aren’t mutually exclusive goals.
  • The Networker and the Process Improver can frustrate each other. One thrives on people, the other on systems. Encourage them to see how their strengths complement each other: relationships open doors, and processes keep things running smoothly.
  • Surprisingly, the C-Suite and the Process Improver usually get along well. Both want results. They just approach them differently. 

What to do Right Now

  • Pay Attention to Patterns: Who’s always talking? Who’s always silent? Spotting dynamics is step one.
  • Balance the Energy: Don’t let one type run the show. Make space for each strength.
  • Frame Collaboration as a Win for Everyone: Say, “Your process idea will make this easier, and your connections will get it approved faster.” People like hearing how they fit.
  • Encourage Cross-pollination: Ask the Partier to co-lead a brainstorming session with the C-Suite type. Pair the Networker with the Process Improver on rollout. Mix them up intentionally.

Which archetype are you? Please share in the comments.

Three Down

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“We don’t learn from experience; we learn from reflecting on the experience.” – John Dewey

Continuing the journey we started with Quarterly Contemplation and Half Way There, it’s time to pause and reflect on Q3.

Think About Your Thinking

You’re wrapping up a busy quarter at work. The projects, deadlines, and constant task juggling are all blurring together so it’s tempting to skip reflection. Think about how you handle your workweek. If a meeting runs over, what’s the first thing you cut? Chances are, it’s the five minutes you set aside to review your progress or reset your priorities. But if you do, then you’ll miss out on one of the most powerful and affordable tools available for professional growth. The same happens at the end of a quarter. Please pause and process what happened so you don’t walk into Q4 on autopilot carrying forward habits that do not serve you.

We treat reflection as optional, but it’s actually central to learning. It’s more than replaying events in your head. It requires metacognition: thinking about your thinking. You consider what worked, what didn’t, and why. You connect past choices to future goals. And when you articulate that process (even just jotting notes in a document), you’re strengthening a skill set that compounds over time.

Your output isn’t just tasks. It’s also ideas, decisions, and problem-solving. Here are two common areas where reflection can make a difference:

  • Time Management: Maybe you intended to block out focus hours, but constant Slack pings derailed you. Reflection helps you spot patterns like this so you can try a new boundary next quarter.
  • Career Goals:. You might be good at executing tasks but realize you’ve spent little time building skills for the role you actually want. Reflection surfaces those blind spots before another quarter slips by.

These aren’t abstract benefits. They show up in real ways: fewer late nights at the laptop, better alignment with your manager’s expectations, and more energy for projects that matter to you. Give yourself targeted questions. Think of them as prompts that guide your thinking and keep you honest. Over time, you’ll get faster at noticing themes in your work and more confident in making adjustments. 

Questions to Ask Yourself

What were the major objectives I set at the start of the quarter, and did I meet them?

What work am I most proud of, and why?

What were the biggest challenges I faced, and how did I respond?

What is one habit I should start, stop, or continue doing to improve my workflow?

How did I contribute to the positive culture of my team?

What is my top goal for professional development before the end of the year?

Are my current projects and responsibilities still aligned with my long-term career aspirations?

What questions would you add to this list? Please share in the comments.

The Fuel

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You finally got the raise you worked so long and so hard for. You’re ecstatic! For about a minute and a half. Then you think, “Wait. That’s it?” The milestone matters, but the money isn’t what fulfills you. The fuel that keeps you going is the process that got you there: your daily practice of showing up, solving problems, and getting a little sharper every day.

Why the High Fades So Fast

Extrinsic rewards like raises, promotions, or landing a new job are motivating but they quickly lose their shine. The email subject line “Congratulations!” feels great in the moment. But two weeks later, you’re back in the grind wondering why you don’t feel any different. Feelings are fleeting. What lasts are the skills you built, the focus you developed, and the decisions you made. These are things you control. What you don’t control is whether the company hits its revenue targets. Or whether your boss’s boss decides it’s the right time to bump your pay. You choose how to use your time and the quality of the work you produce.

The Process is the Point

Raises, promotions, and job offers are markers. They’re not destinations. The fulfillment comes from how you handle the work in between them. Think back to when you were working toward the raise. Maybe you streamlined how your team reports results. Maybe you volunteered to take the lead on a project outside your comfort zone. Maybe you finally learned how to say “no” to the meeting that could have been an email. (If it’s this one, then you’re my new superhero.) The part that fueled you was not the outcome. It was the act of improving.

The same principle applies to bigger career decisions. Maybe you’re choosing between two job offers: one with higher pay, the other with more growth potential. The satisfaction doesn’t come from the offer letter. It comes from the clarity you build while weighing your core values against the options and from the discipline of making the choice you’ll stand behind six months later. Or maybe you’ve started thinking about leadership. You won’t control whether your manager opens a new role next quarter. But you can control how you prepare. You can sharpen your ability to make decisions, practice how you delegate, and build trust with peers.

Why Process Wins More Often

When you commit to the process of showing up each day, learning, and refining, outcomes go your way more often because you give yourself more chances to succeed. For example, your coworker only updates their resume and portfolio once every two years when they’re job-hunting. But you regularly document your projects, update your Atta Baby! file, and reflect on what you learned. When the unexpected opportunity comes up, your coworker is scrambling. You, on the other hand, are ready for it. 

What personal process improvement tip do you have for the Is It Worth Your T.E.A.M.? community? Please share in the comments.

Your Career Compass

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Promotions, project assignments, and pushback in meetings all come with trade-offs. Without a clear set of core values you’re just guessing which choice is right. With them you have a built-in compass that points you in the right direction even when the map is unclear.

What Are Your Core Values?

They are the deeply held beliefs that shape your decisions and actions. They’re the “why” behind your “what.” At work, they are the difference between wise choices and the ones you regret six months later. If you don’t know what your core values are, here is a list from Brene Brown (thank you!) to help you define them. After looking at the list:

  • Choose 10–15 values that resonate with you. Take your time but don’t overthink it
  • Whittle those down to 3–5. This is hard. Focus on what really drives you
  • Check your behavior against your list. This is where it gets uncomfortable: notice what you do, not just what you say. Values are only real if your actions reflect them. For example, if you say honesty is a core value but you leave inconvenient details out of a client report because it makes your team look better, then you may not be as committed to honesty as you thought. That’s not to shame you. It’s to help you notice when your behavior doesn’t match your stated values. The gap is revealing

Why Core Values Matter at Work

Leaders face this all the time: two options, both high stakes, both with trade-offs. Core values act as a filter. They help you set aside other people’s expectations so you can make decisions that align with who you are. For example, in a team meeting your manager proposes a project timeline you know is unrealistic. If one of your core values is integrity, that value pushes you to speak up even if it’s uncomfortable. If your top value is loyalty, you may frame your concerns differently, focusing on supporting the team while raising the issue.

Use Core Values to Guide Your Career

Short-term example: Your manager asks you to join a new project that would be great for your visibility but would require late nights for the next three weeks. If one of your values is balance, you may decide to pass or negotiate a more sustainable schedule. If your top value is growth, you may accept and plan for recovery time afterward.

Long-term example: You’re considering a job offer from a company with a reputation for high turnover and aggressive targets. If stability is a top value, you may decline. If innovation is a top value, you may decide the fast pace aligns with what you want.

In both cases, your values act like a GPS. You still choose the route, but they keep you pointed toward your destination.

How to Apply Your Core Values Right Now

  • Write them down and keep them visible: Put them on a sticky note on your laptop. Take a photo of them and use it as the wallpaper on your phone
  • Define 2–3 behaviors for each value: This makes them measurable and realistic
  • Run decisions through your values filter: When faced with a choice, ask: “Which option best aligns with my values?”
  • Use them in conversations: If you decline an opportunity, frame it around your values. For example: “I want to make sure I can deliver quality work, so I’m concerned about the current timeline.”
  • Revisit them quarterly: Your values may stay the same, but your behaviors may need updated as your career progresses

How do you use your core values to make wise career choices? Please share in the comments.

Are You Ready for It?

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It’s promotion season! The time of year when titles shift, responsibilities grow, and opportunities open up. Whether your company follows a formal review process or leaves advancement up to individual managers, one thing is clear. You aren’t handed a promotion. You have to be ready and strategic.

Close Gaps

Before you ask for a promotion look up the job description for the role you want even if it’s not currently posted. What skills, certifications, or leadership abilities does it mention that your current role doesn’t require? Skill gaps aren’t deal breakers. But if they’re visible and unaddressed, they’re easy reasons to pass you over. Your good work does not speak for itself. Promotions go to people who proactively show they’re already doing some of what the next-level job demands. For example, if the job requires strategic planning, and you’re currently in a tactical role, think back to when you helped your team decide on quarterly goals or you made a case for prioritizing a project. Document that and be specific.

Highlight Impact

Instead of listing your tasks clearly state the outcomes your work produced. “Created reports,” is fine, but what happened as a result? You can say, “Increased reporting efficiency by 30% by restructuring our monthly deliverables.” When pitching yourself for a promotion, share examples of projects that had measurable impact. Then tie them directly to the role you want. For example, “Last quarter, I led a small team to implement a new client feedback loop. The experience taught me how to adapt communication styles across departments. That skill is required in the new role on a daily basis.”

Be Clear

Vague descriptions make it harder for others to see you in a bigger role. Swap out generic phrases with specific, transferable skills. Instead of “Ran meetings” say, “Facilitated weekly team syncs, keeping cross-functional partners aligned and on track.” Your goal is to make it easy for your manager to visualize you in the new position. Not just because you’re ready, but because you’ve already started acting like you’re in it.

Build Relationships

If no one in leadership knows your work, they can’t advocate for you when decisions are made. Be visible in the right ways: Speak up in meetings with thoughtful questions or insights. Offer to present team wins or project outcomes. Ask for feedback. Not just from your manager, but also from peers or other leaders you’ve worked with. If your manager knows the promotion is a stretch role, don’t shy away from acknowledging it. Say something like: “I may not be the most obvious candidate on paper, but I’ve been working intentionally to grow in these areas, and I believe I can bring real value to the team.”

Ask Professionally

Once you’ve done your prep, set up a meeting with your manager. This is not a casual hallway conversation. Frame it as a career development check-in. Come prepared with: A list of accomplishments tied to the new role. Evidence you’ve closed (or are closing) any skill gaps. A clear statement of your interest in the position. You are not bragging. You are owning your progress and signaling your readiness. You can say, “I’ve taken on more responsibility over the past year, and I’ve had the chance to lead several initiatives that improved team efficiency. I’ve reviewed the expectations for the position, and I believe I’m ready. I’d like to talk about what it would take to be considered.”

How do you clearly demonstrate the value you bring? Please share in the comments.

Patience Is Powerful

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Hamilton: An American Musical debuted on Broadway on August 6, 2015. Have you noticed that many of its 46 songs relate to the workforce? For example, “Right Hand Man” is about then-General George Washington talking Alexander Hamilton into taking a promotion as his aide-de-camp.

There is a line from the song “Wait for It” I return to repeatedly. It’s sung by Aaron Burr’s character. He compares his misfortunes to Hamilton’s successes. He’s hyping himself up after being judged by his coworkers. He sings about how unfair life is and what he intends to do to succeed:

I am the one thing in life I can control 

I am inimitable

I am an original 

I’m not falling behind or running late 

I’m not standing still

I am lying in wait

The common assumption is: Patience means doing nothing. If you’re not chasing, pitching, or climbing, you’re behind. It’s easy to mistake patience for indecision or unwillingness to make a move. But read it again: I’m not standing still. I am lying in wait. That’s not passivity. That’s strategic. In your work life it’s tempting to confuse waiting with wasting time. But that’s not how real life—or real work—functions. And it’s definitely not how growth works. Patience isn’t about pausing. It’s about preparing.

When It Feels Like Losing

Coworkers are getting promoted. Starting companies. Speaking at conferences. Meanwhile, you’re still in back-to-back meetings trying to keep from drowning in your inbox. Do you doom-scroll LinkedIn and think, “She’s already a director?” or “He’s publishing another book?” In that headspace, patience can feel like losing. The pace of work makes it feel like if you don’t sprint, then you get trampled. The pressure can drive you to make poor decisions like jumping at a job that isn’t the right fit or saying yes to a project just to stay visible. But activity isn’t the same as progress and not every season of your life is meant to be fast. Some seasons are for planting. Quietly. Intentionally. It’s not glamorous and it usually doesn’t come with applause. But it’s how success takes root. Patience is knowing when to be still. It’s choosing to wait, not because you’re indecisive, but because you’re discerning.

Patience at Work

Prepare Quietly: Instead of pushing for your next move, what can you get better at while you wait? Strengthen a skill. Build relationships. Improve your processes. Get so good they can’t ignore you. Document your wins. These investments compound even if no one sees them right away. 

Support Visibly: Stay engaged, even if you’re not center stage. You don’t have to lead a project to make a difference in it. Offer help. Ask questions. Be present in the work that’s happening around you. Collaboration is its own currency. When the seat at the table opens, you’ll already be in the room.

Reset Your Narrative: Let go of timelines you didn’t choose. You’re not stuck. You’re building momentum. Shift the story you’re telling yourself from “Why not me?” to “Not yet.”

Notice Envy, Don’t Let it Lead: It’s okay to feel a twinge when someone else gets what you wanted. But don’t let that feeling force you into something that’s not ready. Instead of seeing it as a setback, use envy as a push forward. Double down on networking and upskilling. 

Watch for Your Window: Look for signs, not spotlights. The right moment rarely announces itself, but you’ll recognize it more easily if you’ve been quietly preparing for it all along. Patience isn’t a forever plan. It’s a strategic posture. When the opportunity does open up, don’t hesitate. Step into it.

What do you do to make sure patience is not passive? Please share your tips in the comments.

Your Real Budget

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A house. An MBA. A vacation you’ve dreamt about since your first entry-level job. Big scary purchases like these force you to stop and ask a tough question. “Is it worth the money I’d have to spend?” But it’s not only about the price tag. It’s also about what else you have to trade for it: your time, energy, and attention in addition to your money. That’s your real budget. When any of those get stretched, your productivity, mental health, and values take the hit. How do you decide?

Let’s say you’re thinking about one of these:
  • An MBA program to switch careers or boost your salary.
  • Buying a house in a better school district.
  • Finally taking that two-week vacation to Europe.

They’re all valid options. And they all come with a cost.

  • Will this drain your capacity for work you care about?
  • Will this choice add to your stress?
  • Will you regret doing it?
  • Will you regret not doing it?

What Are You Really Investing?

Earning your MBA is not only tuition, It’s also late nights, weekend classes, fewer hours for friends, family, or rest. If your job is already demanding, is your current energy level up for this?

Buying a house may seem like an upgrade. But it may double your commute, stretch your mortgage, or add home maintenance tasks you never had to think about. Can you make time for that?

Even the vacation, which sounds like self-care, can eat up time in planning, money you may need later, and attention you should be giving to pressing deadlines. Do you have the attention span for it?

Think about:
  • Are you willing to invest the time it takes to make this work?
  • Do you have the energy for it, or are you borrowing against burnout?
  • What other priorities will lose your attention?
  • What will you have to say no to, either now or later, because of this cost?

Are You Doing This for the Right Reasons?

Your college friends are going back for grad school. Your family thinks it’s time you bought property. Your coworker just returned from Italy. But if the cost doesn’t line up with your values, it’s going to backfire. For example:

  • If freedom is a core value, taking on $80K in student debt may weigh you down more than it lifts you up.
  • If you value stability, moving across the country for a job with a higher salary, and a higher cost of living, may not be the right move.
  • If competition drives you, the selfies you take in Milan may one up your coworker temporarily, but the cost is long-term. 

What Are the Long-term Consequences?

Imagine yourself three years from now:
  • Will the MBA help you earn more, or delay your ability to save for a home?
  • Will buying a house now lock you into a job you’re already outgrowing?
  • Will a vacation refresh you or set back your emergency fund?
  • Will this investment open more doors or close some?
  • Will it still feel like it was worth your time, energy, attention, and money?

How do you make decisions about the resources that shape your life? Please share in the comments.