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The Discomfort Zone

Every day you show up, log in, and face a mix of meetings, messages, and missions. One part of your brain is ready to tackle the day. Another part is whispering you’re not cut out for this, you’re falling behind, or someone is going to realize you don’t actually know what you’re doing. The hardest work isn’t always on your to-do list. Sometimes, it’s in your head.

Take Action

You’ve probably heard of Impostor Syndrome. It’s the feeling you’re one mistake away from being found out. SPOILER ALERT: Everyone is an impostor. No one knows everything. Successful people keep moving in spite of their fear. Let’s say you’ve been asked to lead a project that feels a little too big. You tell yourself someone else would be more qualified. You consider turning it down or waiting for a time when you feel more ready. That feeling you interpret as a red flag is actually a sign you’re growing. Don’t wait for it to disappear. Step forward and get past it. The next time you feel like an impostor, say this to yourself, “I feel uncertain, but that doesn’t mean I’m not capable.” Then take one small action: Send the kickoff email. Ask a question. Book the meeting. Build momentum before doubt has time to settle in.

Awkward Practice

Instead of comparing yourself to your coworker who seems to always have it all together, ask yourself, “Am I better today than I was yesterday?” Growth usually isn’t a big leap. It’s a series of small shifts. Let’s say you struggle with leading meetings. You freeze under pressure or feel awkward when the discussion goes off-track. Instead of waiting to magically become more confident, rehearse a few common scenarios. Script a few go-to phrases you can fall back on like: “Let’s pause for a second. What’s the main decision we need to make here?” Or “That’s a good point. How do you see that impacting the timeline?” Practice these out loud. When the moment comes, your brain won’t scramble for words because it will already have them. Also, when something feels uncomfortable or new, ask a curious question instead of retreating. For example: Instead of saying, “I don’t know how to do this,” try, “What’s the first thing I’d need to understand to make progress?” Curiosity shifts you from panic to problem-solving.

Be Brave

Scroll through LinkedIn and you’ll see perfect projects, prominent prizes, and polished personal brands. But you’re not seeing the stress, the edits, or the three failed drafts behind those posts. If you’re holding back at work because you’re worried about not having all the answers, that’s normal. But if you let that fear guide your decisions, you’ll stay stuck. To be productive you have to be brave enough to make mistakes out in the open. Let’s say you’re in a team meeting and someone suggests a direction you’re not sure will work. You have an idea, but it’s not fully formed. You can either stay quiet or speak up, knowing you may be wrong. Say something like: “That is very interesting. We should definitely consider that. And it makes me wonder (Insert the thing you’re wondering here.) Would that work?” You’re not pretending to be the expert. You’re starting a new conversation. That’s valuable. Also, give yourself permission to say, “I don’t know, but I’ll find out.” You build trust by owning your gaps instead of pretending you don’t have any.

How do you move through your discomfort zone at work? Please share in the comments.

Dark Empathy

A volunteer and I were troubleshooting the usual challenges an event brings when I said, “Misery loves company.” Without missing a beat, they replied, “Don’t be a misery partner.” This gave me pause. I wasn’t just expressing dissatisfaction. I was inviting someone into it. Is that the right thing to do? Misery loves company, but do you have to RSVP?

What It Really Means

You’ve probably heard the phrase before, but let’s be clear: “Misery loves company” means that unhappy people often look for others to share in their pain. Sometimes it’s about validation,“You feel this too, right?” Other times it’s darker. If someone is stuck in a bad mood it can feel comforting to pull others into the same mindset. Misery doesn’t just want to be seen. It wants companionship.

Why We Do It

Validation: Misery can feel isolating. Sharing it with someone makes it feel less lonely.

Mood-matching: If you’re angry or disillusioned, it can feel easier if the person next to you is too. Misery becomes a shared lens.

Identity Reinforcement: If you stay in that space long enough, you begin to expect and even seek out negative experiences. It becomes part of how you navigate work and relationships.

When It Becomes a Problem

In the short term, it feels good to vent. It builds rapport. It can even feel productive. But over time, it shifts from bonding to spiraling. For example: Let’s say you have a coworker who habitually wants to talk about how bad leadership is. Every team meeting, every direct message, it comes up. At first, you agree. But soon, you’re both repeating the same frustrations. Nothing changes. The venting doesn’t lead to clarity or action just mutual grievance. That’s misery partnering. When two or more people reinforce each other’s worst perspectives, you’re no longer helping each other process. You’re keeping each other stuck.

How to Spot It at Work

Misery partnering isn’t always loud. It can look like two coworkers grabbing coffee just to complain. It can happen in team group chats or in “just being real” sidebars. It drains your energy and clouds your decision-making. When your default mode is skepticism or complaint, even good ideas start to feel naive. You stop contributing. You play it safe. You protect your mood instead of doing your best work. If you experience any of these, then ask yourself:

Am I sharing this to feel better, or to feel right?
Does this conversation go in circles?
After we talk, do I feel lighter or more stuck?
Are we taking any action, or just blaming?

What You Can Do Instead

You don’t have to cut off every frustrated coworker and you don’t have to bottle things up. You do need to be mindful about how much airtime you’re giving to frustration and whether it’s helping. The next time a coworker starts spiraling, don’t pile on. Listen, but then steer. Ask what they need. Suggest one step forward.

Start with this mantra, “I can listen without absorbing. I can empathize without enabling. I can share my own frustrations without needing someone to sink with me.” Call it what it is: a moment, not a mindset. If you catch yourself being the one pulling others in, pause and ask yourself: “What do I actually want right now? Validation? Change? Relief?”

If you’re stuck in a loop with someone who’s always venting, try asking: “What are you thinking about doing next?” It’s a gentle nudge out of rumination and into action.

How do you avoid becoming a misery partner at work? Please share in the comments.

Take the Time

You take time off work for a vacation because it’s a culturally acceptable reason to rest and restore your body. But what about your brain? If your mind is overloaded, your work suffers. In conversations about taking a mental health day, I’ve heard opinions running the gamut from eye rolls to enthusiasm. Of course, this made me curious.

Why Take a Mental Health Day?

It’s like resting a strained muscle. Pushing through the discomfort doesn’t make you tougher, it wears you down. If you’re feeling mentally exhausted, overwhelmed, or unmotivated, this shows up in your work through mistakes, slow responses, or irritability. Would you trust your job performance after three nights of bad sleep and three days of nonstop Zoom calls? If you catch yourself zoning out in meetings, dreading small tasks, or struggling to care about the outcome of your work, it’s time to step away and reset. How often you take one depends on your workload. Does it regularly drain you? Then maybe quarterly is a good cadence. Do you usually need a break after an intense project? Then schedule one for immediately after delivery. Create a personal system that accommodates the pace of your work and makes it sustainable.

How Do You Request One?

Some people I spoke with worried taking time off for mental health would make them appear unreliable or weak. The good news is more organizations recognize that productivity depends on sustainable work habits. Unlike calling in sick with the flu, a mental health day is best planned ahead. Choose a day that doesn’t interfere with deadlines, major events, or key meetings and give your manager as much notice as possible. Communicate clearly and keep the focus on coverage and continuity.

If your workplace is supportive: Be direct. For example say, “I’d like to take a mental health day next Friday. I’ll make sure everything is on track before I’m out, and I’ll loop in [Teammate] on anything that might come up.” After your manager approves it, coordinate coverage of your projects. Let coworkers know who to contact while you’re out and make sure that person has all the resources they need. Offer to return the favor when they take a day off.

If not: Be indirect. Label your request the term your company uses for flexible paid time off. Usually it’s called a personal day or a vacation day. You don’t have to explain how you intend to use it. For example say, “I’d like to request a personal day for Thursday. My workload is covered and I’ll be back Friday.”

What Should You Do on One?

Nothing: Turn off your laptop. Watch a show. Lie on the couch. Do not feel guilty.

Spend time with people you like: Meet a friend for coffee or lunch. Visit a sibling. Talk to someone who doesn’t expect work talk. Social connection lowers stress and boosts mood.

Roam if you want to: Take a long walk, go to a hot-yoga class, or bike around your neighborhood. The goal is to boost your energy not your fitness.

Something just for you: Read a book. Cook a slow meal. Run errands you’ve been avoiding. Clear clutter. Anything that restores your sense of control.

Volunteer: Spend an hour helping someone else. This could be anything from packing food at a local pantry to helping a student learn to read. There are many local nonprofits who need help.

What is your take on a mental health day? Please share in the comments.

The Cantillon Effect

The conversations I’ve heard lately about the economy sent me down a research rabbit hole on the Cantillon Effect. I’ll share what I’ve learned then please tell us what you know.

The Cantillon effect explains why money is never neutral. When new money enters the economy, it doesn’t spread evenly. It flows first to certain industries like defense, healthcare, finance, and education. Workers and companies connected to these industries feel the benefits earlier. For example, more funding, higher salaries, and better job opportunities. But people on fixed incomes, salaried workers outside these sectors, and those relying on social programs feel the benefits last, if at all. Often, by the time the money reaches them, prices have already risen. In effect, they have less purchasing power than before. Understanding this dynamic can help you make better decisions about your job, your career moves, and your financial stability.

Why It Matters

It explains why some industries are hot and others stagnate.
When you see big hiring pushes or salary jumps in fields like healthcare technology, defense contracting, or fintech, that’s often a Cantillon effect in action. Those industries are closer to the new money. Meanwhile, other fields, especially those not directly connected to government contracts or major investment flows, may see slower growth.

It impacts your salary over time.
Even if you’re getting annual raises, inflation that hits after the first wave of money recipients means your purchasing power can shrink. You may feel like you’re working harder but falling behind financially.

It can influence layoffs and hiring freezes.
When new money stops flowing or shifts direction, industries further down the chain often get hit first. If you’re in a field far from these money sources, you may experience more volatility.

What It Can Look Like

Promotion and Raise Timing:
Colleagues in certain departments may get promotions or bigger raises faster than you because they’re tied to revenue streams boosted by new funding. For example, a sales team connected to healthcare clients may see rapid bonuses while you don’t.

Job Security:
If you’re a curriculum developer supporting education technology funded through federal grants, your job could feel more secure during times of economic uncertainty compared to your friend who works at a traditional publishing company.

Career Moves:
If you pivoted into cybersecurity for defense agencies after 2020, you are likely closer to “first money” flows. As a result, your salary is probably higher and your job more secure compared to your colleagues who stayed in less funded sectors.

What You Can Do

Pay attention to industry funding trends.
Stay informed about which industries are receiving large investments or government contracts. Sites like Crunchbase, Pitchbook, government spending reports, and business news can give you clues.

Choose employers carefully.
If you’re changing jobs, look at where the company’s revenue comes from. Organizations tied to heavily funded sectors are more likely to offer better raises and job stability.

Strengthen your negotiation skills.
Because salary bumps may lag inflation, you need to negotiate not just for raises but also for benefits that protect you. For example, stronger healthcare, remote work flexibility, and bonuses tied to company performance.

Keep your debt manageable.
Debt holders often benefit because inflation makes debt cheaper over time. But if you’re in an industry that’s slow to feel new money, you could get squeezed. Avoid overextending yourself.

Think two steps ahead.
Don’t just ask yourself, “Is this a good job today?” Also ask yourself, “Will this company/industry be close to new money flows two years from now?”

What do you know about the Cantillon Effect? Please share in the comments.

That’s Another Good Question

After last week’s article about good questions, the “Is It Worth Your T.E.A.M.” community had some good questions for me! I’m sharing them, along with examples, for the good of the group.

Common Question Concerns

How do you ask a technical question without sounding naive?
Focus on what you need to learn, not what you think you should already know.

“I’m still getting familiar with this. Will you please walk me through how it connects to X?”
“What’s the best resource to understand how this works?”

How do I ask my manager better questions during one-on-ones?

Ask about expectations, priorities, and growth. Avoid general “How am I doing?” questions. Be specific.

“What’s one area you think I could improve in this quarter?”
“Are there upcoming projects where I can take more ownership?”

How can I ask questions in a meeting without sounding like I’m showing off?
Focus on curiosity, not performance. Keep it brief, stay on topic, and avoid jargon.

“Will you please share the process of how you weighed the options before landing on this approach?”

How do I ask questions without putting someone on the spot?
Use softer language and offer space to think. This shows respect and lowers pressure.

“Would you be open to breaking down how you landed on this course of action?”
“Whenever you have a moment, I’d love your take on how this decision came together.”

How do I push back or ask challenging questions tactfully?
Lead with respect and aim for understanding, not debate.

“I see the benefits of this plan. What would you say are the trade-offs we should keep in mind?”
“Is there a reason we ruled out Option B? I just want to understand the full picture.”

What if I asked a question and it didn’t land well?
It happens. Don’t over-apologize. Clarify or follow up later.

“I realized I may not have been clear earlier. What I meant to ask was how the timeline impacts our testing phase.”

How do I ask better questions in time-pressured situations?
Be direct and results-focused. You don’t need context, just the information you need to act.

“Can I get a quick yes/no on whether we’re moving forward with the update today?”
“Is this blocking anything else on your end?”

How do I know when to stop asking questions?
Watch for signs like:

You’re getting short answers
The person repeats themselves
The person says, “Let me follow up later”
You’re starting to ask things you could find yourself

At that point, pause, thank them, and pivot:

“Thanks, that’s helpful. I’ll take a look at what’s documented and come back if needed.”

Practice

Asking good questions helps you make better use of your time, understand your work more clearly, and build stronger relationships. Like any skill, it improves with practice. Here are a few things you can do right away:

Rewrite one vague question you ask often. Make it clearer and more specific
During your next meeting, ask one thoughtful follow-up
Practice active listening: Summarize what you heard before asking a follow-up
Ask one question at a time
After a presentation, ask a “what’s next” question to keep things moving

Do you have a good follow-up question for the community? Please share it in the comments.

That’s a Good Question

Asking the right questions makes your job easier and your work more effective. Good questions help you make better decisions, manage your time, and build trust with your team. Poor questions, on the other hand, lead to confusion, delays, and missed details. So what makes a question “good”? How do you ask questions in a way that’s helpful and not annoying?

Characteristics of a Good Question

Good questions are clear, specific, relevant to the task or discussion, and invite a useful response. They respect people’s time and knowledge. You ask them with a goal in mind, like one of these:

Understand context or details affecting your work
Avoid misunderstandings
Move projects forward
Spot roadblocks early
Stay aligned
Build rapport with coworkers

Types of Good Questions

Knowing what type of question to ask in different situations helps you get better answers. Here are a few types followed by examples.

Open-ended questions: Invite thoughtful responses. These are useful when you want to gather input or explore options. “What are some ways we could improve this process?”
Clarifying questions: Help confirm your understanding and avoid assumptions. “When you say ‘onboarding,’ are you referring to new employees or new clients?”
Follow-up questions: Show you’re paying attention and take the discussion deeper. “You mentioned a budget issue. Can you please say more about that?”
Critical thinking questions: Challenge ideas constructively and move conversations forward or uncover gaps. “What would happen if we removed that step entirely?”
Technical questions: Dig into tools, systems, or data. “What triggers that alert in the CRM, and can we adjust the threshold?”

General Best Practices

Ask one question at a time. If you ask three things at once you’ll usually only get one answer.
Be specific, not narrow. Narrow: “What’s the deal with this project?” Specific: “Can you update me on the status of the content handoff for this project?”
Don’t interrupt. Restrain yourself from jumping in with a follow-up question until the speaker finishes their answer.
Be an active listener. Listen to understand, not just to reply. Show you’re engaged by making eye contact, giving short verbal cues (e.g., “Got it,” “Makes sense”), and base your follow-up questions on what you actually heard.

Specific Best Practices

For casual conversation, like chatting with a coworker in the hallway or sending a Slack message, ask one question at a time:

“Hey, I saw the metrics doc. Can you please walk me through what changed in Q2?”
“What’s the best way to submit a travel request?”

At meetings stick to clear, short questions that move the discussion forward:

“Can you please share how this decision impacts our timelines?”
“What’s the biggest risk we haven’t talked about yet?”

After a presentation ask for deeper detail or next steps:

“Thanks for the overview. Could you please say more about how you calculated ROI?”
“If we want to get involved in that pilot, what’s the first step?”

During a negotiation good questions help uncover flexibility or constraints:

“What leeway do we have in the timeline?”
“If we adjust the scope, would that affect the price?”

In remote settings (Zoom, Teams, email) be direct and specific:

“Can you please clarify what’s expected by Friday and what can wait?”
“I’d appreciate a quick example of what a ‘successful submission’ looks like.”

Asking better questions isn’t about sounding smart. It’s about being curious, respectful, and intentional. Because that’s what builds trust, clarity, and momentum at any job, on any level, in any field.

What is your favorite good question? Please share in the comments.

Completion Anxiety

Are you unable to step away from work until every task is checked off your to-do list and every email answered? Do you often think, “I have all these things to do and I can’t get any one of them DONE.”? This relentless drive may be more than dedication. It could be Completion Anxiety (CA).

What Is CA?

Completion Anxiety is the persistent fear of not finishing tasks or not meeting set standards. It causes stress and impedes your productivity.

What Does It Feel Like?

Overwhelmed: You feel swamped by your number of tasks or nervous about your incomplete work.
Restless: Not completing every item on your daily to-do list makes you irritable at the end of the day.
Sick: You get frequent headaches at work or at lunch time you realize you’ve been clenching your muscles all morning.
Unfocused: You can’t concentrate on the task in front of you because you’re worried about all your other unfinished tasks. You are too paralyzed to do anything so you procrastinate.
Perfectionistic: You’re afraid your work is subpar so you try again, but striving for perfection results in missed deadlines.
Dodgy: You avoid tasks that give you stress but the unfinished work doesn’t go away it just accumulates.
Exhausted: The constant pressure you put on yourself to finish projects leaves you burned out and unmotivated.
Tense: Every ding of an email notification stresses you out because you’re nervous you either won’t respond promptly enough or it means another task has been added to your to-do list.

What Can You Do About It?

Confine: Define specific work hours and stick to them. At some point during the last half of your workday, identify tasks that can wait until the next workday. Striving for completion is commendable, but not at the expense of your well-being.
Prioritize: Which tasks are urgent? Which tasks are important? Work a lot on completing the urgent and a little on the important. Schedule time on your calendar to work more on the important later in the week.
Good Enough: Done is better than perfect. Remind yourself perfection isn’t always necessary. Shift your focus from getting every detail absolutely right to making steady progress toward delivering a competent and sufficient result.
Divide: Breaking tasks into smaller steps makes them more manageable and less daunting. Take breaks between completing one step and starting the next.
Celebrate: Recognize your achievements. Acknowledging your completed tasks builds confidence and reduces anxiety. The celebration can be as small as moving a task from your to-do list to your is-done list.
Limit: Allocate specific timeframes to each task to prevent overextending yourself. Sometimes you stare at a project for so long it stops making sense and you doubt yourself. Save your work and come back to it a little later with fresh eyes.
Feedback: Get your work to a minimum viable product then get your manager’s input. This should help reduce your tendency to overwork. Your manager decides when a task meets the required standards. If your work gives them all they need, move on to the next project. If not, clarify what else needs done and keep working on it.

How do you combat Completion Anxiety? Please share in the comments.

Wobbly Wealth

Financial security feels like a moving target. Variables like student loan payments, the cost of living, and the pressure to keep up with a certain lifestyle can quietly erode long-term financial stability. With layoffs hitting formerly stable industries, your job may leave you before you leave it. Are you earning a solid paycheck but still feel financially vulnerable? Maybe you’re making subtle mistakes that limit your future security. Here are some examples.

Overlooking Workplace Benefits

Many employers offer financial perks beyond salary, like 401(k) matching, health savings accounts (HSAs), and tuition reimbursement.

Why it’s dangerous: Ignoring these benefits means missing out on free money. A 401(k) match is essentially a guaranteed return on your savings, and HSAs provide tax advantages that lower your overall expenses.

Why it happens: You’re busy, and HR paperwork isn’t exciting. You assume these benefits aren’t significant or you think you’ll get around to it later.

How to avoid it:

Review – Check what benefits are available once a year. If you’re unsure, ask for help. A quick email to HR could mean thousands of extra dollars over time.
Prioritize employer-matching programs – If your company matches 401(k) contributions up to 5%, contribute at least that much. It’s free money.
One step to take now – Log into your benefits portal and confirm you’re maximizing employer-matching contributions.

Letting Your Emotions Drive Financial Decisions

It’s easy to justify splurging on an expensive vacation because your coworkers travel often. Emotional spending will quietly drain your long-term security.

Why it’s dangerous: Money is a tool, not a status symbol. Decisions driven by emotions often lead to overspending, poor investments, and unnecessary stress.

Why it happens: Social comparison is real, and financial decisions often feel personal. Without clear financial goals, it’s easy to react rather than plan.

How to avoid it:

Detach – Just because colleagues upgrade their cars or take luxury trips doesn’t mean you have to.
Set clear goals – Figure out what financial independence looks like for you and make decisions that align with your vision.
Pause – If a financial decision feels urgent or emotional, give yourself 24 hours to reconsider.
One step to take now – Review your last five discretionary purchases. Were they based on needs, long-term goals, or impulse? Adjust your behavior accordingly.

Taking on Too Much Debt

Some debt, like student loans or a mortgage, can be strategic. But excessive consumer debt will sabotage your financial progress.

Why it’s dangerous: Interest payments eat into future income, making it harder for you to save and invest. High debt loads also reduce financial flexibility if you’re laid off or have an expensive emergency.

Why it happens: You assume a higher income means you can afford higher expenses. Easy credit approval tempts you to finance purchases rather than save for them.

How to avoid it:

Differentiate between good and bad debt – A mortgage or business loan can be an investment. A car loan for a luxury vehicle is not.
Live below your means – Just because you qualify for a high credit limit doesn’t mean you should use it.
Pay off high-interest debt first – Prioritize credit card debt and other high-interest loans to free up future income.
One step to take now – Check your total monthly debt payments. If more than 30% of your income goes toward non-mortgage debt, create a plan to reduce it.

What do you do to secure your financial future? Please share in the comments.

Quarterly Contemplation

Reflection isn’t just about looking back. It’s about using the insights you discover to build a better future. When you assess what went well, where you struggled, and what you need to change, you can head into the second quarter of the year with clarity and purpose. Reflections are a powerful way to rest, reset, and refocus. Here are some prompts to get you reflecting on the work you did during the last three months.

How did I contribute to my team’s success?

Assess your collaboration. What strengths did you use? How can you better leverage them? What areas for continuous improvement presented themselves? For example, if you were instrumental in keeping a remote team connected, you may want to focus on expanding your leadership skills.

Who supported me and how can I express gratitude?

Make a list of the people who made your life easier. How did they do it? For example, did they introduce you to one of their connections who is now a potential client? Invest in your key professional relationships by acknowledging those who helped you. A quick thank-you email or LinkedIn endorsement can go a long way.

How does my work align with my long-term career goals?

Confirm you’re moving in the right direction. How does your current role support your aspirations? If it doesn’t, small changes, like taking on stretch assignments, can get you on track.

What skills do I need to stay relevant in my field?

Be a life-long learner. Technology accelerates every industry and keeping up with it is mandatory. What are one or two skills, like learning a new software tool or improving your public speaking, you’d like to learn? Identify competencies that could significantly impact your career trajectory.

Did I set boundaries effectively?

Evaluate your work-life integration. It’s crucial for long-term productivity. What boundaries did you set and maintain, like unplugging after work or saying no to non-essential tasks? Adjusting your approach can help prevent burnout.

What relationships did I build?

Nurture your network. Relationships are essential for career growth. Whom did you meet that connected you with a valuable opportunity? Whom did you support by introducing them to a resource? Plan to reach out to at least one loose-tie contact next month.

What are my goals for Q2?

Plan for the future. What do you want to achieve in the next three months? Get out your Atta Baby! folder. Did the compliment come from completing an assignment you enjoyed? How can you get another one of those? Doing work you enjoy helps you stay motivated.

Next Steps

Schedule quarterly check-ins with yourself to revisit your goals and progress. Treat these like personal performance reviews to stay accountable.
Enroll in a LinkedIn Learning course or an in-person workshop to address a specific skill gap.
Set up a system, like a weekly reflection habit, to keep your goals top of mind.
Celebrate your progress. Acknowledge incremental improvements as wins. It keeps you motivated and reinforces your positive habits.

What prompts do you suggest? Please share in the comments.

Normalize Uncertainty

At work, some of the biggest stressors: Should you take a new job? Should you ask for a raise? Should you choose a different direction for this project? boil down to the same challenge: committing to one path and letting go of the others. That’s why it feels hard. If you’re still holding on to every possible option, you haven’t made a decision. And while keeping your options open feels safe, it keeps you stuck.

For Example: Let’s say you’re a marketing manager leading a product launch. You have three possible campaigns: one focused on social media, one on influencer partnerships, and one on email marketing. Instead of committing to one, you keep tweaking all three. The launch date creeps closer, but you don’t finalize a direction. The result? Your scattered approach dilutes the launch’s impact. If you don’t make the decision, reality will. Deadlines will rush your efforts or leadership will step in and decide for you. Either way, avoiding the decision doesn’t make things easier. It just adds stress.

Never Enough

No matter how much research you do before making a decision you’ll never have 100% certainty about the outcome. In his book, It Worked for Me: In Life and Leadership by Colin Powell with Tony Koltz, retired General Colin Powell suggested making decisions when you have 40–70% of the information you need. Because waiting longer often means missing the opportunity altogether. If you’re considering a job offer but waiting for absolute certainty it’s the right move, then the offer may expire or a competitor may take the role.

For Example: Let’s say you’re a senior data analyst debating whether to implement a new reporting system. You will never know all the possible outcomes in advance. But you can gather key details: cost, integration time, team workload, then make the best choice with the information you have.

Change Feels Hard, Indecision Feels Worse

One reason decisions feel difficult is because they involve change. Humans naturally resist change until the discomfort of staying the same outweighs the discomfort of doing something different.

For Example: Let’s say you stick to manual research instead of using AI to speed up data gathering because the switch feels overwhelming. Then you find your workload without AI increasing and your competitors who do use AI are moving faster. Suddenly you are behind and need to catch up. At that point, the pain of resisting AI becomes greater than the pain of adapting.

Avoiding a Decision IS a Decision

Not choosing is still choosing. If you don’t decide whether to ask for a raise, you’re deciding to keep your current salary. If you don’t choose between two career paths, you’re letting your current trajectory continue by default. When you actively make a choice, you take control. When you let decisions happen to you, then you’re at the mercy of circumstances.

Make the Decision then Make the Decision Work

Instead of fixating on whether you made the perfect decision, focus on moving forward. If you decide to take a job, focus on excelling at it. If you ask for a raise, be prepared to justify it with your accomplishments. If you choose a project direction, back it with execution, not second-guessing. That’s how progress happens.

How do you make decisions? Please share in the comments.