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For vs On

Are you living for a purpose… or living on purpose?

Those two little prepositions make a big difference.

Living for a purpose means your destiny is somewhere out there in the ether. It’s the North Star you’re reaching for but can’t quite grasp.

Living on purpose means you choose intentions, behaviors, and next steps based on what matters today; not on job titles, self-help books, or performance reviews.

If you’ve ever felt behind, confused, or quietly panicked about not knowing what your one true calling is, you’re not alone. In fact, researchers have given this feeling a name: Purpose Anxiety. It’s a mix of fear and pressure that kicks in when you’re trying to find or live up to some “Purpose.”

Living For a Purpose Backfires

You might believe there’s a special gift only you have, even if you don’t know what it is yet, and your job is to keep searching until you find it. And once you do you’re supposed to nurture it, master it, monetize it, brand it, and become best in class. No pressure or anything. Here’s the problem: when you’re living for a purpose, everything feels like a test. At work it can look like:

Staying in a role too long because maybe this is supposed to be your thing. Even when you’re bored, unchallenged, or dragging yourself to Monday morning meetings like you’re the main character in a rom-com.
Feeling behind because everyone else seems more purposeful than you. Someone else built a business. Someone else got promoted. Someone else has a five-year plan. And there you are refreshing your inbox.
Feeling guilty when you’re not lit up by your job. You’re supposed to be passionate! Inspired! Thrilled! But some days you’re just trying to get through your to-do list without rage-eating a king-size Reese’s Cup at your desk.

Living On Purpose Is Sustainable

Living on purpose is less about finding a calling and more about choosing how you show up. Instead of hunting for your one perfect career identity, you start building meaning through the work you actually do. Living on purpose feels lighter, more grounded, and ironically, makes you better at your job. You’re evaluating opportunities based on alignment, growth, and real conditions not vibes and destiny.

What Living On Purpose Looks Like

Small choices made consistently. You don’t need a grand vision to move forward. You need the next right step. Reply to the email. Schedule the informational interview. Update your resume. Ask the question. Choose clarity over perfection.
Following your curiosity instead of chasing a calling. Curiosity leads to skills. Skills lead to options. Options build confidence. You don’t need to see the whole staircase to take the next step.
Paying attention to what energizes you. Not what impresses your friends. Not what society tells you should matter. What actually feels meaningful in your day.
Letting go of the idea that your job must fulfill your entire identity. Your career can be meaningful without being your entire personal brand.

Start Here

Name your values for this season (not forever). Choose three. Use them when making decisions. Don’t know what your values are? Read this.
Pick one small action that aligns with those values and do it this week. Purpose grows through action.
Set a “good enough” bar for your career decisions. Not perfect. Not destiny-sized. Just good enough for now.
Stop asking “Is this my purpose?” and start asking “Does this matter to me today?”
Treat your career like a series of experiments, not a prophecy. Try things. Learn things. Drop things.

How do you live on purpose? Please share in the comments.

Gambling With Your Future

I hope you’d never walk into a casino and bet your paycheck on a roulette wheel. But plenty of smart, responsible adults gamble with their money every day. It happens when you buy into the latest crypto coin because someone on social media said it’s the next big thing. When you keep high-interest credit card debt because you think it’s manageable for now. Or when you skip your employer’s 401(k) match because you plan to catch up later. You might think you’re making financial moves. But some of those moves are really risks pretending to be strategy.

What Financial Gambling Looks Like

Day Trading: You’re glued to your phone between meetings, watching stock prices jump and dip like a heartbeat. You tell yourself you’re learning the market, but you’re really chasing adrenaline. True investing is like gardening. It grows with time. Trading on impulse is like pulling the plant up every hour to check its roots.
Crypto FOMO: You heard Joe in finance doubled his money on a meme coin, so you jumped in. Then the market dipped, and you promised yourself you’d hold until it bounces back. Crypto has potential, yes. But if you’re buying it without understanding it, you’re not investing; you’re guessing. That’s like ordering off a menu in a language you don’t speak and hoping it’s your favorite meal when it arrives.
High-Interest Debt: You’re paying 20% interest on your credit card but throwing extra cash at speculative investments. That’s like bailing water from a sinking ship while drilling new holes in the hull.
Ignoring Free Money: Your employer offers a 401(k) match, but you’re waiting until you make more to contribute. That’s like walking past a free lunch every week and buying fast food instead. Compounding, where your money earns interest on both your deposits and the interest they’ve already earned, isn’t magic, but it is the next best thing.

How This Ties to Work

At work, you’re rewarded for action: jumping on opportunities, thinking fast, getting results. But money rewards the opposite: patience, restraint, and long-term consistency. If you thrive on quick wins, it’s easy to bring that same mindset to your finances. You refresh your portfolio like you check Slack. You take shortcuts because standing still feels like losing. But sustainable success, whether in your career or your wallet, comes from focus and follow-through, not flashes of luck.

Stop Betting and Start Building

Automate Your Safety Net: Set up automatic transfers into savings and retirement accounts. What you don’t see, you won’t spend.
Diversify Your Funds: Spread your money across stocks, bonds, and cash savings. If one thing drops, the others help steady the ship.
Pay Yourself First: Before you invest in crypto or options, clear high-interest debt. You can’t out-earn a 24% APR.
Understand Your Risk Tolerance: Some people can handle volatility; others lose sleep over it. Match your investments to your comfort level, not a coworker’s advice.
Stick With Boring: Boring is beautiful when it comes to money. Index funds, low-cost investments that track the overall market, quietly build wealth while flashier bets flame out.

How do you stop yourself from gambling with your future? Please share in the comments.

Boundaries Have Consequences

I received this valuable feedback about last week’s discussion, Overcommitted:
“We think all we have to do is set up a boundary. But people push our boundaries and we have to defend them. That can be uncomfortable with coworkers and career threatening with higher-ups.”

Thank you for that point! Let’s talk about one of the trickiest situations you’ll face at work: holding boundaries when leadership pushes against them.

Risks and Rewards

Short-Term Discomfort: A manager who’s used to hearing “yes” may interpret a boundary as resistance or lack of commitment. This can feel awkward but that discomfort is temporary. Help them see how your intentionality makes you more reliable and engaged than ever.

Impact on Visibility: You worry about missing out on plum projects or promotions. Stay visible by over communicating progress on your existing priorities. Show that focus equals results. For example, “I’m wrapping up X this week, which should free up space for Y next quarter.” This helps you manage perception as much as workload.

Improved Respect: When you can say, “I’d love to take that on, but I want to make sure I can deliver the quality you expect,” you’re signaling maturity, not obstinance. Strong performers set boundaries because they care about doing things well.

Clarity Around Expectations: Your manager genuinely doesn’t realize the load you’re carrying. Communicating your bandwidth creates an opportunity to clarify what’s most important and what can wait. A respectful reality check helps both of you prioritize smarter.

Long-Term Career Growth: The same boundaries that cause friction early on often pay off later. People who manage their workload wisely are less likely to burn out, make fewer mistakes, and are more trusted with high-stakes projects. Leadership isn’t about taking everything on. It’s about taking on what moves the organization closer to its goals.

When It’s Your Manager Asking

When your manager gives you an assignment, you can’t just shrug and say, “Nope.” But you can negotiate.

When your plate is already full: “I’d love to help, and I want to make sure I’m meeting current deadlines. Can we talk about what should come off my plate if I take this on?” This signals realistic willingness and invites collaboration. You’re cooperating and making trade-offs visible.

When it’s clearly not your responsibility: “That sounds important. Who’s the best person to own that? I can share what’s worked for me in similar situations.” This reframes the request as problem-solving, not avoidance.

When the request is unclear: “Can you help me understand the goal of this task? I want to make sure it aligns with what we’re prioritizing right now.” This helps your manager think about the urgency of the task.

The next time you’re tempted to say yes out of habit, ask yourself: Is this task aligned with my goals? Will saying yes help me grow or just keep me busy? What am I giving up by agreeing to this?

What is a boundary you are glad you held? Please share in the comments.

Overcommitted

I sat in an audience of emerging leaders. A panel of three seasoned managers sat on stage to share what everyone wanted to hear: How to own your career. Halfway through, the moderator asked, “How do you say no to an increasing workload with no incentives attached?” Everyone held their breath. The panelists looked at each other, and one finally, very gently, spoke the truth in love, “Well, you really don’t say no. That’s part of the ‘other duties as assigned’ phrase found in most every employment agreement.”

Silence.

That silence revealed the struggle of deciding where responsibility ends and overwork begins. Because yes, your career is your responsibility and so are your boundaries.

Why Saying “Yes” Feels Safer

Saying yes feels like job security, or proof you’re a team player. You want to be perceived as dependable and promotable. Saying no can feel like you’re pushing back against authority or signaling you can’t handle the load. But overcommitting doesn’t make you valuable. It makes you vulnerable. When you say yes to everything, your value becomes tied to volume, not quality. Your best work gets buried under everyone else’s priorities. You end up tired, distracted, and quietly resentful.

What Boundary Creep Looks Like

You’re the go-to person for fixing PowerPoint decks because “you’re so good at it.”
You spend hours reformatting slides for meetings that don’t involve you.
Your manager asks you to lead a new initiative without adjusting your current deadlines. You agree, then spend nights catching up.
Your colleague “just needs a quick favor” that somehow turns into a recurring task.
You’re asked to “just sit in” on another team’s meeting. Then somehow, you’re taking notes and managing follow-up tasks.
Your coworker goes on vacation, and their work lands on your desk “just for a week,” which turns into two.
You’re the most organized person on your team, so you start running every group project, none of which are technically in your job description.

If any of these sounds familiar, it’s time to reassess. Maintaining boundaries doesn’t make you difficult. It makes you effective. You don’t need to be defiant to draw a line. You just need clarity about your capacity and the confidence to communicate it.

It’s An Art

Boundaries are not barriers. They’re filters. They protect your energy so you can deliver your best work on the right things. Healthy boundaries signal strategy, not defiance. When you communicate them well, you show emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and respect for priorities, including your manager’s. There’s an art to turning down extra work without burning bridges. It’s all about tone and timing. You’re not rejecting the work. You’re aligning with goals. Over time, people will start to see you as someone who’s focused and reliable. Here’s a formula you can try.

Acknowledge the request:“I appreciate you thinking of me for this.” Starting with gratitude lowers defenses.
State your current priorities: “Right now, I’m focused on finalizing the report due Friday and supporting the training rollout.” This shows that your bandwidth is already spoken for, not that you’re unwilling.
Offer an alternative: “If this can wait until next week, I can give it my full attention.” or “Would it make sense to loop in Jack, since he’s been working on something similar?” This demonstrates you’re a problem-solver.
Reinforce alignment: “I want to make sure we’re hitting the most important goals first.” You’re not rejecting the request; you’re prioritizing what matters most to the team.

What is one thing you do to artfully protect your boundaries? Please share in the comments.

Hold on Loosely

You’ve heard of job hopping. Meet its quieter cousin: job hugging. It’s what happens when you hold on to your current role like it’s the last lifeboat on the Titanic. Let’s talk about what’s happening and what you can do about it.

What It Is

After years of high turnover during the Great Resignation, the pendulum has swung the other way. Companies have slowed hiring. Layoffs still make headlines. Pay growth is flattening. You see fewer “We’re hiring!” posts on LinkedIn. So, you do what many smart, responsible professionals do. You cling to what you know. The steady paycheck. The predictable routine. The illusion of safety. But comfort and security aren’t always the same thing.

Why It’s Happening

The labor market is tight. Many companies are still rebalancing after over-hiring during the pandemic. Simultaneously, economic uncertainty, from interest rates to election cycles, makes even confident professionals hesitate. You might think it’s not the right time to make a move and you’re wise to be cautious, but there’s a difference between being careful and getting stuck. That stuck feeling is what’s fueling job hugging: a mix of fear and perceived safety.

The Risks of Holding Too Tight

Stalled skills: When you stay in one environment too long, your learning curve flattens. For example, a project manager who’s been at her company for six years knows every client, every template, every shortcut. But the market’s moved on to new project-tracking software and if she hasn’t even touched it then she’s behind competitors who’ve adapted.

Missed opportunities: By not looking, you don’t see what’s out there. Even if you’re not ready to switch, keeping an eye on job trends tells you what skills are in demand, what salaries are rising, and which companies are growing.

Long-term financial stagnation: According to Statista, in 2022 job switchers used to get an annual pay increase of at least 15%. Those who stayed often saw only 7–8%. Today that gap has narrowed, but staying too long in one place can quietly cost you thousands in lifetime earnings.

Hug Your Job but Don’t Burn Out

Ask the hard question: Are you staying for the right reasons or just because it feels safe? If your only reason is fear, that’s not a strategy. That’s a stall. Write down what’s keeping you there: money, flexibility, benefits, etc. Weigh those against what you’re missing: growth, learning, pay, satisfaction. The clearer you see it, the easier it is to act intentionally.

Invest in yourself: Take advantage of internal upskilling budgets, cross-training, or free tools. If that’s not an option, spend a few hours a week learning new technology, obtaining certifications, or practicing soft skills. (Pssst…Access to LinkedIn Learning is free with your Dayton Metro Library card.) The best time to build marketable skills is before you need them.

Nurture your network: You don’t have to launch a full-on job search. Just reconnect. Send a LinkedIn message to a former coworker. Attend a virtual event. Comment on industry posts. These small touches keep your professional circle alive and position you for future moves.

Update your materials: Quietly refresh your résumé. Polish your LinkedIn profile. Pull up your Atta Baby! file and jot down your recent wins and metrics while they’re fresh. Think of it as career hygiene. You brush your teeth daily; you should update your career toolkit quarterly.

Get curious: Ask to shadow another team. Volunteer for a cross-department project. Learn how your company is making money this year. Curiosity keeps your brain sharp and your résumé interesting.

What is one thing you’ll do this week to prepare for your next opportunity? Please share in the comments.

The Art of Ignoring

Willpower isn’t just about resisting the urge to check Slack every time it pings. It’s about deliberate focus.

Focus Like a Lens

Think of your attention like the lens in your eye. When you focus on something close, the background blurs. Willpower works the same way. It sharpens your mental focus so one task comes into crystal-clear view while the rest fades away. When you say, “I’m finishing this presentation before lunch,” you’re choosing clarity over clutter. But when you rapidly task switch (multitasking is a myth, btw) like editing slides, checking email, responding to a message from your boss, then you’re trying to keep everything in focus at once. That’s like asking your eyes to look near and far at the same time. You end up not seeing anything clearly.

Try this: Before you start a task, close out everything that’s not essential: browser tabs, Slack channels, your phone. You’ll be amazed how fast your brain clicks into single-focus mode once you remove the background noise.

How to Bend Willpower to Your Will

Willpower is more like a cat than a dog. You can’t force it to show up on demand. However, you can make it easier to access. When you design your environment to make discipline unnecessary, willpower becomes less about fighting temptation and more about removing it.

Try this: Make the right thing easy and the wrong thing hard. For example: Keep healthy snacks visible; hide the candy. Put your phone across the room during meetings. Schedule deep work sessions at your mental peak (for many, that’s mid-morning).

Freedom in What You Don’t Do

Freedom at work doesn’t come from saying yes to everything. It comes from saying no to the wrong things. The freedom to end your day on time. The freedom to take lunch away from your desk. The freedom to leave unread emails… unread. Boundaries create breathing room. Without them, your time gets hijacked by other people’s priorities. True freedom at work is the ability to choose less on purpose.

Try this: Block “do not disturb” hours on your calendar and defend them like the Ukrainian Ironbelly dragon guards the Gringotts Wizarding Bank. You’ll feel your mental space expand almost immediately.

Willpower Needs Rest

Willpower is like a battery. If you drain it all day with constant decisions, nonstop meetings, and endless notifications, then it will fail you when you need it most. But when you rest and recharge, it grows stronger. Rest isn’t laziness; it’s maintenance. Take a walk. Eat lunch without your laptop. End your day instead of letting it fade into night. These aren’t indulgences. They are refueling stops for your brain.

Try this: Treat your focus like your phone battery. When it hits 20%, plug it in. For example, step away for five minutes, stretch, breathe, or just stare out a window. You’ll come back clearer and sharper.

How do you intentionally ignore what doesn’t matter so you can pour your attention into what does? Please share in the comments.

Protect Yourself

You’ve got your work rhythm down, bills are on autopay, and money doesn’t seem like the big stressor everyone makes it out to be. Then BAM you get into a car accident. The repair bill is bigger than your last bonus check. The insurance deductible wipes out what you thought was extra income. Suddenly, one domino tips into another, and you realize your safety net has huge holes in it.

Only 46% of U.S. adults have enough emergency savings to cover three months of expenses. That means over half of us are one crisis away from financial free fall. You don’t have to wait for the floor to drop. You can build guardrails right now.

Focus on Financial Literacy

Learn how credit works, how interest compounds, and why “zero percent APR for 12 months” can be a trap if you don’t read the fine print.

To Do: Pick one financial podcast, blog, or book this month and commit to finishing it. You’ll be surprised how quickly small insights, like knowing your credit utilization ratio, translate into better decisions.

Create a Realistic Budget

You can’t improve what you don’t measure. For example, if you discover you’re spending $250 a month on takeout lunches, then you can decide whether it’s worth it or whether you’d rather funnel $100 into savings and still grab Chipotle once a week.

To Do: Start a spreadsheet. Track every expense for two weeks. The point isn’t to cut everything. It’s to see clearly where your money is actually going.

Build Savings

Your emergency fund is your personal career insurance. Start with a small, achievable goal: $1,500. That’s enough to cover most minor disasters like replacing the catalytic converter on your car without panic-Googling payday lenders. Once you hit that, aim for three months’ worth of expenses, then six. I know that sounds like a lot. And it is. Six months is currently how long it’s taking people to find new jobs.

To Do: Automate $50 a paycheck into a separate savings account. Set it and forget it. Future you, facing an unexpected bill, will thank you.

Pay Down Debt

High-interest debt is like running on a treadmill while someone keeps handing you five-pound weights. You’re working hard, but you’re not getting anywhere. Credit cards, payday loans, and other high-interest traps drain future earning power. Attack them first.

To Do: Get out that budget spreadsheet and add a tab. List your debts, interest rates, and minimum payments. Choose one of these methods to pay them down: Avalanche Method: Pay extra on the highest-interest debt first. Or the Snowball Method: Pay extra on the smallest balance for quick wins. Both work. The best method is whichever one you’ll stick to.

Diversify Your Income

Your salary shouldn’t be your only defense against poverty. Having multiple income streams can buffer you in the event of layoffs or hiring freezes. A side hustle doesn’t have to mean starting a full-blown business. It can be freelancing your current skills, teaching online, or setting up a passive income stream like writing an e-book and selling it on your website.

To Do: Identify one skill you already use at work (e.g., writing, data analysis, design) and brainstorm one way to monetize it outside your day job.

What is one thing you do to protect yourself from poverty? Please share in the comments.

Bridge the Gap

Your brand is the shorthand people use to describe you when you’re not in the room. It’s your reputation. If you’re perceived in a way you don’t want to be perceived, that’s a problem. What do you want to be known for at work? How do you make sure you’re actually known for that?

A performance review is a bad time to discover the image you’re transmitting is not the image your manager is receiving. For example: You want to be known as the person who can solve tough problems. But if people keep saying, “Jordan’s great! They answer emails instantly, no matter when you send them,” then your brand risks being ‘always available’ instead of ‘strategic thinker’. Speed is fine, but if the story others tell about you is more around responsiveness than problem-solving, the perception gap just swallowed your brand whole.

The Gap Between Self-Image and Brand

You know how you see yourself, but that doesn’t mean your coworkers or managers see you that way. You might think you’re organized because you keep an immaculate to-do list, but if you miss deadlines, the team will call you scattered. You might think you’re collaborative because you let everyone weigh in during meetings, but your team may quietly wish you’d just make a decision already. This is where the brand gap shows up. It lies in the little misalignments between your intent and others’ experience of you. Do any of these common branding misfires sound familiar?

Meetings: You think you’re being thorough by asking detailed questions. Others think you’re derailing the agenda.
Email habits: You believe instant replies show reliability. Others assume you have too much time on your hands or aren’t focused on bigger priorities.
Decision-making: You frame your approach as careful and thoughtful. Others see it as indecisive.

Your Ego’s Report Card

How do you bridge the perception gap? You ask people what they think. A 360-degree assessment, formal or informal, is one of the best tools you have. You gather feedback not just from your boss, but from peers, direct reports, even cross-functional colleagues. The feedback may sting, but think of it as your ego getting a performance review. Feedback is data and data is what you need to make decisions. It will tell you what to work on. Feedback usually comes with positives too. For example, maybe your manager says your presentations are a little too detailed, but your follow-through is unmatched. You can work with that. Soothing the sting with positive feedback helps you double down on strengths that people already notice.

Manage Your Brand

Clarify: Decide what you want to be known for (e.g., problem-solver, reliable leader, creative thinker, efficiency expert). If you don’t define it, others will define it for you.
Ask: Don’t wait for the annual review. A quick “Hey, when I run meetings, do I come across as clear and confident?” can reveal a lot.
Adjust: People can’t read your intentions. They can only see your actions. Do you want to be seen as decisive? Start summarizing meetings with, “Here’s the call I’m making.”
Repeat: Consistency is key. If you want to be the strategic thinker, don’t undercut yourself by showing up mainly as the fast replier.

How do you bridge the perception gap? Please share in the comments.

The Fuel

You finally got the raise you worked so long and so hard for. You’re ecstatic! For about a minute and a half. Then you think, “Wait. That’s it?” The milestone matters, but the money isn’t what fulfills you. The fuel that keeps you going is the process that got you there: your daily practice of showing up, solving problems, and getting a little sharper every day.

Why the High Fades So Fast

Extrinsic rewards like raises, promotions, or landing a new job are motivating but they quickly lose their shine. The email subject line “Congratulations!” feels great in the moment. But two weeks later, you’re back in the grind wondering why you don’t feel any different. Feelings are fleeting. What lasts are the skills you built, the focus you developed, and the decisions you made. These are things you control. What you don’t control is whether the company hits its revenue targets. Or whether your boss’s boss decides it’s the right time to bump your pay. You choose how to use your time and the quality of the work you produce.

The Process is the Point

Raises, promotions, and job offers are markers. They’re not destinations. The fulfillment comes from how you handle the work in between them. Think back to when you were working toward the raise. Maybe you streamlined how your team reports results. Maybe you volunteered to take the lead on a project outside your comfort zone. Maybe you finally learned how to say “no” to the meeting that could have been an email. (If it’s this one, then you’re my new superhero.) The part that fueled you was not the outcome. It was the act of improving.

The same principle applies to bigger career decisions. Maybe you’re choosing between two job offers: one with higher pay, the other with more growth potential. The satisfaction doesn’t come from the offer letter. It comes from the clarity you build while weighing your core values against the options and from the discipline of making the choice you’ll stand behind six months later. Or maybe you’ve started thinking about leadership. You won’t control whether your manager opens a new role next quarter. But you can control how you prepare. You can sharpen your ability to make decisions, practice how you delegate, and build trust with peers.

Why Process Wins More Often

When you commit to the process of showing up each day, learning, and refining, outcomes go your way more often because you give yourself more chances to succeed. For example, your coworker only updates their resume and portfolio once every two years when they’re job-hunting. But you regularly document your projects, update your Atta Baby! file, and reflect on what you learned. When the unexpected opportunity comes up, your coworker is scrambling. You, on the other hand, are ready for it.

What personal process improvement tip do you have for the Is It Worth Your T.E.A.M.? community? Please share in the comments.

Your Career Compass

Promotions, project assignments, and pushback in meetings all come with trade-offs. Without a clear set of core values you’re just guessing which choice is right. With them you have a built-in compass that points you in the right direction even when the map is unclear.

What Are Your Core Values?

They are the deeply held beliefs that shape your decisions and actions. They’re the “why” behind your “what.” At work, they are the difference between wise choices and the ones you regret six months later. If you don’t know what your core values are, here is a list from Brene Brown (thank you!) to help you define them. After looking at the list:

Choose 10–15 values that resonate with you. Take your time but don’t overthink it
Whittle those down to 3–5. This is hard. Focus on what really drives you
Check your behavior against your list. This is where it gets uncomfortable: notice what you do, not just what you say. Values are only real if your actions reflect them. For example, if you say honesty is a core value but you leave inconvenient details out of a client report because it makes your team look better, then you may not be as committed to honesty as you thought. That’s not to shame you. It’s to help you notice when your behavior doesn’t match your stated values. The gap is revealing

Why Core Values Matter at Work

Leaders face this all the time: two options, both high stakes, both with trade-offs. Core values act as a filter. They help you set aside other people’s expectations so you can make decisions that align with who you are. For example, in a team meeting your manager proposes a project timeline you know is unrealistic. If one of your core values is integrity, that value pushes you to speak up even if it’s uncomfortable. If your top value is loyalty, you may frame your concerns differently, focusing on supporting the team while raising the issue.

Use Core Values to Guide Your Career

Short-term example: Your manager asks you to join a new project that would be great for your visibility but would require late nights for the next three weeks. If one of your values is balance, you may decide to pass or negotiate a more sustainable schedule. If your top value is growth, you may accept and plan for recovery time afterward.

Long-term example: You’re considering a job offer from a company with a reputation for high turnover and aggressive targets. If stability is a top value, you may decline. If innovation is a top value, you may decide the fast pace aligns with what you want.

In both cases, your values act like a GPS. You still choose the route, but they keep you pointed toward your destination.

How to Apply Your Core Values Right Now

Write them down and keep them visible: Put them on a sticky note on your laptop. Take a photo of them and use it as the wallpaper on your phone
Define 2–3 behaviors for each value: This makes them measurable and realistic
Run decisions through your values filter: When faced with a choice, ask: “Which option best aligns with my values?”
Use them in conversations: If you decline an opportunity, frame it around your values. For example: “I want to make sure I can deliver quality work, so I’m concerned about the current timeline.”
Revisit them quarterly: Your values may stay the same, but your behaviors may need updated as your career progresses

How do you use your core values to make wise career choices? Please share in the comments.