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Thank you for spending 2023 with me! As we begin a new year together, here are the top three articles in each category: Time, Energy, Attention, and Money (T.E.A.M.), based on the most views.
I appreciate you discussing these topics with me in 2023. I hope you found them useful. There are more in store for 2024!
What decisions around time, energy, attention, and money are you facing in the new year? Please share in the comments.
What does self-care mean to you? Is it a spa day? Is it organizing your desk? Is it playing Baldur’s Gate 3? Self-care is intentionally preserving and enhancing your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health and well-being. For you, a spa day may be the perfect self-care ritual. For your work bestie, taking time to declutter their workspace is self-care. For another coworker, choosing their own adventure in a role-playing video game is self-care. What works for you may not resonate with your teammates. Tune into your unique needs and make choices that align with your well-being.
Taking time for self-care can make you feel guilty, but prioritizing your health is not a luxury. It is the foundation of healthy work-life integration. Discovering your unique self-care routine is a process of trial and error. Explore different activities and be open to reassess what truly brings you both joy and balance. Here are some suggestions.
Meditate: Use a guided meditation app, deep-breathing exercise, or find a quiet space and write a 250 word reflection. Taking a few moments each day to practice mindful meditation can help calm your mind, reduce stress, and improve overall mental well-being.
Exercise: Whether it’s going for a walk, attending a fitness class, or practicing yoga, exercise not only promotes physical health and good sleep but also releases endorphins. These are “feel-good” hormones that positively impact your mood. Regular physical activity uses your body to take care of your mind.
Sleep: Speaking of sleep, sufficient and quality sleep is a highly underrated form of self-care. Try to go to bed at the same time every night and get up at the same time every day. Create a comfortable environment by adjusting the room temperature, noise level, amount of light, and all the variables that help you get an adequate amount of rest each night.
Detox: Take a break from the constant influx of information from your digital devices. Put your screens away an hour before bedtime and read a book. Avoid social media for a weekend. A digital detox increases your mental clarity and reduces your stress.
Create: Paint, build a model pirate ship, or play a musical instrument. Whatever your outlet for self-expression and emotional release is, make time for it. Such activities are therapeutic. They allow you to process your emotions and tap into a part of yourself that your work-life responsibilities may not use.
Nourish: Fill your body with high quality fuel. Replace that doughnut with blueberries and low-fat yogurt. Go meatless for one meal a week. Instead of snacking on potato chips, try almonds. Take time to read nutrition labels. When you consume food and drinks that are low in simple carbohydrates and sugar you are literally taking care of yourself.
Connect: Maintain key relationships. You can hang out in-person, videoconference, text, or call. Whatever medium allows you to spend time with the people you love helps you maintain a sense of belonging, support, and emotional fulfillment.
The next time you wonder, “Is this self-care?” remember that you get to make that decision guided by your unique needs, desires, and understanding of what makes you feel well. You may find extra time on your hands this week between Christmas and New Year’s Day. If so, please use it to do something that makes you feel good. Even if that something is nothing at all.
What will you do to take time for yourself this holiday season? Please share in the comments.
Stand up, close your eyes, and balance on one foot for 10 seconds. Did you feel your body adjusting for the entire 10 seconds to keep you from falling over? If the constant tension of managing your time feels like balancing on one foot with your eyes closed, it helps to have a decision-making process to fall back on. Let’s explore the four Ds of time management: delete, delegate, defer, and do. How can you implement these strategies to get your urgent tasks as well as your most important tasks done?
Not every task is of equal importance, and some activities may not significantly contribute to your overall goals. By regularly purging non-essential tasks, you free up valuable time and mental bandwidth so you can focus on the more critical aspects of your work. First, identify items that are low-priority, redundant, or simply unnecessary. Then, pull out your latest job performance review and compare it to your task list. To effectively delete, ask yourself:
Recognizing you can’t do everything on your own and empowering your team to handle specific tasks can significantly increase overall efficiency for the whole organization. By sharing responsibilities, both you and your team can optimize your time, energy, and attention for the tasks that require each person’s specific expertise. This practice cultivates a more productive, collaborative, and pleasant work environment. To effectively delegate:
You want to get a task done so you can check it off your list and move on to the next but some tasks would be more efficiently done if you stop to think about them. You should take time to contemplate tasks whose results have lasting consequences on processes, people, and/or payroll. These decisions usually require multiple sources of information and/or resources that may not be at your fingertips. Deferment allows you to address tasks at optimal moments and avoid unnecessary stress for you, your team, and your organization. To effectively defer:
Procrastination often leads to increased stress and a backlog of tasks. This hinders your overall productivity. If you promptly address tasks that can be completed in the moment, then you will prevent a workload buildup and maintain a sense of control over your responsibilities. To effectively do:
Mastering the four Ds of time management is a powerful decision-making strategy. It helps you create a more streamlined and efficient workflow and ensures your time is spent on tasks that align with your organization’s goals as well as your personal priorities.
Do you use the four Ds? Please share how in the comments.
“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life,” Confucius said. Or Mark Anthony said or Mark Twain said depending on which Googled source you believe. In the mid-1990s the phrase “follow your passion” became popular advice to job seekers looking for their right career. But people who know about careers, like Mark Cuban and Cal Newport, disagree with that advice. Will following your passion lead to career success or is there a better path?
One of the major issues with the “follow your passion” advice is your passion may not align with the skills and competencies the job market requires. For example, just because you are passionate about playing video games does not mean that you have the skills necessary to be a professional gamer, game developer, or game script writer. Another downside of pursuing your passion as a career is that it blurs the line between work and leisure. When a passion becomes a job, the pressure to both perform and to pay your bills detracts from the original joy the passion generated. Additionally, the belief that doing what you love guarantees success can lead to unrealistic expectations. The job market is harsh. Repeated rejection leaves you disappointed, disillusioned, and burns out your passion. Relying solely on your current passion is dangerous because it changes over time. As you develop new interests you may soon find yourself in a career that no longer aligns with your passion.
Instead of following your passion, evaluate where you spend your time and effort. What tasks do you perform really well? What activities do you love? What skills do you enjoy improving? The answers help you discover what you are genuinely good at and allow you to bridge the gap between your interests and practical competencies. For example, if you write code in Python for fun, this may be an expertise you want to intentionally grow and obtain certifications for. Spending your free time to hone specific skills is a strong indicator of both your aptitude and potential for career success in that passion.
Once you have identified your strengths and skills, seek job opportunities that align with them. Look for roles and industries where your natural talents and proficiency can shine. Continuous learning is vital for staying competitive in today’s ever-evolving job market. Dedicate time and effort to training and practical experience so you can further develop the talents you pinpointed. Keep your eyes open for new roles that may not have been on your radar initially but are closely related to the competencies and interests you defined. Being flexible can lead to exciting career paths you may not have otherwise considered.
Relying solely on your fickle passion is risky business for career planning. Evaluating where you spend your time and energy is a more accurate gauge of the jobs you would both like and be good at.
How does your job play to your strengths? Please share in the comments.
The United States Internal Revenue Service defines full-time employment in terms of hours. Their standard is an average of 30 hours per week or 130 hours per month. You can sit at a desk for those hours and wait for the email notification to ding, but is that productive? If you secure a new customer over a lunch hour, do you have to work another 39 hours that week?
Rooted in the labor movements of the 19th and early 20th centuries, the 40-hour work week was established to protect workers from exploitation, ensure work-life balance, and promote economic stability. Technology, remote and hybrid work arrangements, and a shift in how we measure productivity, makes this rigid structure unsuitable for a wide range of jobs and industries.
Employees are increasingly prioritizing autonomy while employers are increasingly recognizing the value of results over hours logged. The result is transforming the way employees are compensated. Instead of being paid solely for the number of hours worked, employees can be compensated based on their skills, the networks they bring to the organization, and the outcomes they deliver. For example, freelancers, gig workers, and project-based contractors are compensated for completing tasks, the quality of their output, delivering specific results, and the impact on the organization’s success, rather than for a set number of hours worked. This approach aligns more closely with the idea that the value an employee provides to the organization is not solely a function of their time, but the quality and impact of their work. We talked a couple of months ago about how being busy is not a reflection of productivity. With the aid of technology, it is now easier to track and assess work progress and results, no matter where, when, or how an employee chooses to work. Key performance indicators (KPIs), project milestones, and deliverables are more significant in assessing an employee’s productivity rather than the mere number of hours spent at a desk.
In a traditional office setting, it’s easier to monitor and manage employee performance, but in the age of remote work, new methods and tools are required to maintain accountability. Here are some basics.
The demise of the 40-hour work week is not the end of structured work but a transformation that better aligns with the demands and opportunities of the modern workplace. As remote and hybrid work arrangements become more prevalent, a new model of compensation and productivity measurement emphasizing flexibility, autonomy, and results ultimately benefits both employees and employers.
If you are not paid for your time, then by what measure do you get paid? Please share in the comments.
We talk a lot about mindset because it’s one of the keys to making wise choices. This week, let’s explore “main character energy” mindset. What is it? How can you use it to advance your career?
In a play, novel, or movie, the main character is the focal point of the story. Their actions drive the plot forward. Main character energy (MCE) is seeing yourself as the central character in your life’s story. It encourages you to step into your own narrative and acknowledge that your choices and behaviors are instrumental in shaping your future. Here are some key characteristics of MCE.
Your career is a major plot line in your worklife story. Write it according to your vision and goals. Embrace your role as the main character and make your story matter.
How do you portray yourself to yourself in your worklife story? Please share in the comments.
Mom texted me a photo of a new shirt she bought. The caption on the front says, “Hold on, let me overthink this.” It’s perfect for Halloween. What’s more scary than your imagination?
Overthinking is like overcooking. When you overcook something its quality decreases and it doesn’t taste as good as it would have if you hadn’t overcooked it. As you attempt to make the best decisions and achieve your worklife goals, how do you avoid getting trapped in the web of excessive overthinking? Let’s talk about how to recognize overthinking and ways to stop.
It’s essential to think critically and make informed decisions but excessive analysis erodes your productivity and well-being. Control your thought processes by recognizing the symptoms of overthinking and implementing strategies to overcome it. Balance thoughtful consideration with taking action. Sometimes, the best way to move forward is to simply take that first step without overthinking it.
What do you overthink about at work? Please share in the comments.
Your inbox is overflowing with tempting invitations to register for conferences. Your training budget is tight to non-existent, so why should you spend money to attend a conference? Maybe you shouldn’t. What benefits would you receive? What criteria should you use to evaluate whether or not to attend a conference?
Knowledge Sharing: The world of work is constantly evolving, and it’s crucial to keep up with the latest trends and tools in your industry. Conferences are a hub of knowledge. They offer opportunities to learn from experts through keynotes, participate in hands-on workshops with your peers, and gain insights into cutting-edge technologies from vendor demonstrations. Conferences provide a platform for you to both expand and share your knowledge.
Networking: Every industry thrives on connections and collaborations. Conferences intentionally bring together professionals, thought leaders, and peers to give you time and space to interact. Meeting like-minded individuals can lead to valuable partnerships, job opportunities, and mentoring relationships. Engaging with professionals who share your interests can provide fresh perspectives and inspire new ideas.
Advancement: Investing in a conference should be a strategic career move. Many employers view participation in conferences as a sign of commitment to professional development and growth. They can be an opportunity to present your work, which can enhance your reputation within your industry. Exposure to a wide range of concepts and specialists can open doors to new career paths and opportunities.
Inspiration: Hearing success stories, attending keynote presentations, and participating in brainstorming sessions can rekindle your passion for your work and remind you of the bigger picture. Conferences can help you stay motivated and engaged.
Relevance: Before committing to a conference, ask yourself how it aligns with your goals. Is the event focused on a relevant topic you want to learn more about? Does the conference’s content match your professional development objectives?
Quality: Check out the schedule of speakers and breakout sessions. Are subject matter experts presenting? Look for sessions that promise valuable insights, practical knowledge, and interaction. A well-curated lineup can make a significant difference in your conference experience.
Location: Map the conference’s location. Is it in a city with convenient transportation options? Can you easily attend without disrupting your work and personal life? Sometimes, local conferences can be just as valuable as international ones.
Cost: Evaluate the cost of attendance, including registration fees, travel, accommodation, and meals. Compare this cost to the potential value you expect to gain from the conference. Remember that the benefits, such as networking opportunities, knowledge acquisition, and career advancement, can often outweigh the financial investment.
Reviews: Are survey results or testimonials from past attendees available from a source other than the promoter of the conference? Research the conference’s social media platforms for comments on past events. This feedback can provide valuable insights into quality and whether this conference aligns with your expectations.
Support: Discuss the conference opportunity with your employer. Some companies have budgets for upskilling. Ask your manager if attending this conference qualifies for continuing education dollars. Highlight the potential benefits to your company, such as the knowledge you’ll bring back to share and new partnership opportunities for the organization.
Investing your money in attending conferences is a strategic move that can propel your career forward. Attending the right conferences can be a transformative experience that equips you with tools, connections, and insights to thrive in the constantly evolving workforce.
What conferences did you attend this year? Were they a good investment? Please share your favorites in the comments.
Last week we talked about adjusting our mindsets to use setbacks as pushes forward in the workplace. What could possibly go wrong? Well, too much of a good thing is still too much. If you feel compelled to continually demonstrate your value, even at the expense of your well-being, then you risk falling prey to a performance-prove mindset.
Do you feel an insatiable need for external validation? Do you have a deep-seated fear of failure? Do you make decisions that prioritize immediate success over long-term sustainability? Asking for a friend.
You are constantly under pressure to deliver results, meet targets, and drive success. While setting high standards and striving for excellence is essential, an obsessive need to constantly prove your worth through unrelenting performance hurts you, your team, and your organization. How can you tell if you have a performance-prove mindset? If you have it, how do you change it?
Burnout: Do you work long hours, neglect your self-care, ignore signs of stress and/or push through exhaustion? This not only harms your health, but also sets a damaging example for your team. These behaviors signal a burnout culture and toxic work environment.
Rut: Are you solely focused on existing methods and strategies? When is the last time you tried a solution someone on your team suggested? A performance-prove mindset often smothers innovation and creativity within an organization. It can result in failure to adapt to changing market dynamics.
Risk: Are you reluctant to take calculated risks? Are you afraid that any undesired outcome will be perceived as personal inadequacy? Risk aversion stifles your career growth and hinders your company’s ability to seize new opportunities.
Trust: Do you prioritize personal recognition over the well-being of your team? Trust is essential for effective leadership.
Short-Term: Are your decisions mostly about immediate performance metrics? When is the last time you considered how they impact the bigger picture? How often do you pay attention to your company’s reputation, customer trust, and employee satisfaction? Thinking exclusively about short-term goals endangers the sustainability of your business.
Stagnant: Do you regularly set aside time for self-reflection, upskilling, and personal development? Not doing so is an easy way to get in a cycle of proving yourself instead of continuous improvement.
Focus: Align your actions with your company’s vision and/or mission statement. These touchstones should drive decision making for every employee. Doing so lessens the need for external validation, because you already know what your leaders want.
Delegate: Empower your team to own tasks and decisions. Delegating responsibility not only relieves the burden of constant performance but also fosters trust and development among team members. Remember to champion failure as a learning opportunity rather than a personal setback. Encourage a culture that accepts and learns from undesired outcomes so you can stimulate innovation and growth.
Practice: Notice when it’s happening. Regularly set aside time to reflect on why you do what you do and why you feel how you feel. This may be once a month or once a week or even once a day if the situation warrants. Writing a 250 word reflection can help you see what you think. Recognizing the root causes of your performance-prove mindset is the first step to taming it.
Do you attach your self-worth to your job performance? How are you working to change that? Please share in the comments.
I was watching American Ninja Warrior when one of the ninjas fell off the Las Vegas course. She had gotten really far and it was a heartbreaker. As the ninja pulled herself out of the pool of water that broke her fall, the show’s interviewer approached and asked her how she felt. The ninja said she intended to use this setback as a push forward. Mind. Blown.
We’ve talked about how setbacks are inevitable, and how we should embrace failing fast, forward, and frequently. We’ve discussed how data gathered from perceived failure is crucial to the learning process. But we have not championed the mindset of framing setbacks as pushes forward. When you substitute the words “push forward” for the word “setback” you normalize the occurrence. You remove the shame surrounding it. Relabeling the undesired outcome helps you quickly pivot from crisis mode to troubleshooting. To further illustrate, here are a couple of quotes that crossed my path this week.
“I have learned to always push forward following a setback. As I tell my team (and my kids), ‘There is always a way forward’ even when things do not seem to be going our way. There are always lessons to be learned from mistakes. But at some point, it becomes unproductive and unhelpful to dwell on mistakes for too long — backward-looking thinking must quickly give way to forward-looking action. I have adopted one of the sayings from Peraton’s CEO Stu Shea: ‘Surround the problem.’ When my team hits a setback, we work together to stabilize the situation, understand what occurred, and then identify and mobilize the right people and resources to ‘surround the problem’ and move us forward.”
Jim Winner, Executive Chief Legal Officer and General Counsel at Peraton.
“I was rehearsing a play when I was a very young actor. There was an improvised scene between a husband and wife going on inside. They got carried away and they started throwing things and he threw a chair and it lodged in the doorway and I went to open the door and I’d just got my head round and I said, ‘I’m sorry, sir, I can’t get in.’ He said, ‘What do you mean?’ I said, ‘There’s a chair there.’ He said to me, ‘Use the difficulty.’ I said, ‘What do you mean?’ He said, ‘Well, if it’s a comedy, fall over it. If it’s a drama, pick it up and smash it. Use the difficulty.’ Now, I took that into my own life. You ask my children. Directly anything bad happens, they go, ‘Gotta use the difficulty. What can we get out of this?’ Use the difficulty. There’s never anything so bad that you cannot use that difficulty. If you can use it a quarter of one percent to your advantage, you’re ahead. You didn’t let it get you down. That’s my philosophy. Use the difficulty. Also, added philosophy, avoid them if you can at all costs.”
Sir Michael Caine CBE
The next time you are at work and about to say out loud, “We’ve hit a setback,” stop and think. If you substitute the words “push forward” for the word “setback,” how would it motivate your team to surround the problem and use the difficulty? Please share in the comments.