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Strength Plus Warmth

Last week we talked about how to ask for what you want at work and being prepared to get it. I gave you a pep talk over on Substack that included the Strength Plus Warmth Formula. In response I received a couple of questions on what this looks like in real life. So, this week let’s look at a few examples of the types of situations you’re currently in, what your normal approach would be, and what your new approach could be if you use the Strength Plus Warmth Formula instead.

The Strength Plus Warmth Formula

When you need to ask for something: raise, scope change, resources, help, time, etc., use this structure:

Name what you want (one sentence)
Tie it to outcomes (why it matters)
Acknowledge their constraints (warmth)
Offer an easy next step (what you need from them)

It looks like this: “I’d like X because it will Y. I know you’re balancing Z. The next step I’m asking for is A.”

That’s it. Four steps. No groveling. Not bossy.

Now let’s make it concrete across manager/peer/direct report because your week contains all three.

1) Asking for a raise or promotion

Soft default: “I was wondering if maybe we could talk about compensation at some point…”
Translation: Please don’t be mad that I exist.

Strength Plus Warmth scripts:

Option A: Direct and calm

“I’d like to discuss a compensation adjustment to reflect my scope and impact. Over the last six months, I’ve delivered X, Y, and Z. What’s the process and timeline to review this?”

Option B: Promotion-focused

“I’m ready to be considered for the next level. I’m already operating at that scope in these areas: X, Y, Z. What specific outcomes would make this an easy yes in the next cycle?”

2) Pushing back on scope

Soft default: You say yes, then resent everyone, then work late, then wonder why you’re tired.

Strength Plus Warmth scripts:

Option A: Tradeoff question

“I can take this on. To do it well by Friday, I’ll need to deprioritize X. Which would you like me to pause?”

Option B: Clarify the ask

“Before I commit, can we define what ‘done’ looks like? If we want it by Friday, we’ll need to keep the scope to A and B.”

Option C: Protect quality

“I want to make sure this lands well. With the current workload, I can deliver either fast or polished. What matters more here?”

3) Pitching an idea

Soft default: You float it like a balloon and hope someone else attaches a string.

Strength Plus Warmth scripts:

In a meeting: “I recommend we do X. It would reduce Y and help us hit Z. If there are no major objections, I can draft a plan by Thursday.”

In Slack: “Proposal: X. Benefit: Y. Cost: about Z hours. If you’re aligned, I’ll move forward and share a first pass by Thursday.”

How do you exude both strength and warmth to achieve your goals at work? Please share in the comments.

For the extended article including additional scripts and The Not Pushy Calibration Hack sent right to your inbox, subscribe to my Substack.

Finite Mental Fuel

You fire up your laptop at the beginning of your workday. Your inbox is humming. Slack is exclamation pointing. A meeting reminder pops up. Someone is asking if you “have a sec.” And you haven’t even decided what you’re working on first.

Every day, you burn mental fuel on hundreds of tiny choices: which task to start, how to respond to that vague message, whether to speak up in a meeting, what to eat for lunch, whether to push back on a deadline, if you have a minute to scroll (one minute?! Yeah, suuuure). Each decision drains a little willpower. By 3 p.m., your brain is running on fumes and your self-control starts bargaining: What if we just do the easy stuff and call it productivity?

Self-control isn’t about being a robotic productivity machine. It’s about designing your day so you don’t have to wrestle yourself every hour. And when discipline, emotional regulation, and boundaries work together, you get something priceless: peace of mind. Not the bubble bath kind. The real kind. The kind that lets you trust yourself.

Why Self-Control Feels Like Calm

Self-control has bad PR. It sounds like deprivation. Like you’re supposed to grit your teeth and resist joy. But in practice, self-control is relief because it limits chaos. When you have a few simple defaults like routines, boundaries, and emotional reset tools, you stop re-deciding your entire life every morning. You stop asking, What should I do now? every 20 minutes. You stop being surprised by your own behavior. No longer relying on motivation creates calm. Now you’re relying on a plan. Think about the person who always eats the same breakfast every workday. They’re protecting their mental energy for decisions that actually matter like how to handle a tense client email. You’re not trying to control everything. You’re trying to control what you can so you don’t get controlled by everything else.

The Three-Part System: Discipline, Regulation, Boundaries

Make the Right Thing the Easy Thing: Discipline reduces the number of choices you have to make. If you start your day with a clear plan, you’re less likely to spend the morning warming up by reorganizing your to-do list for the sixth time. Decide your Top Three priorities before the workday starts. Not ten. Not everything. Three. Because when the whirlwind hits (and it will), you already know what deserves your attention and what can wait. You don’t have to renegotiate with your brain in real time.

Stay in Charge When You’re Triggered: Decision fatigue is about emotions. You sit in a meeting where people talk in circles like it’s an Olympic sport. Now you’re irritated, and suddenly every next decision feels heavier. Emotional regulation is self-control at the moment it matters most: when you’re triggered. Try this micro-script in your head: “I don’t need to solve this right now.” It sounds almost too simple, which is exactly why it works. It interrupts the panic-urgency loop and gives your brain space to choose instead of react.

Protect Your Priorities Like They Pay Rent: Your day can be perfectly planned and people will still try to get you to make their emergencies yours. Boundaries are the guardrails that keep your attention from being rented out to the highest bidder. A boundary doesn’t have to be dramatic. It can be a sentence:

I can do that, but it’ll be after I finish X.
Can you tell me the deadline and what done looks like?
I’m in focus time until 11. Can we talk after?

How do you take control of your finite mental fuel? Please share in the comments.

For the extended article including The 5-Day Peace of Mind Self-Control Challenge sent right to your inbox, subscribe to my Substack here.

Get Your Brain Back

You’re technically done for the day, but your mind is still at work. You’re heating up dinner, and your phone lights up. You tell yourself you’ll just check Slack or Teams. Five minutes later you’re replying, clarifying, and re-reading a thread you didn’t start. That’s the always-on mentality. It’s not just that you can communicate from anywhere. You feel like you should. That pressure isn’t random. It’s wired into the way virtual communication works.

Virtual Messages Feel Urgent

In an office, urgency has cues. Someone walks quickly to your desk. A calendar invite pops up titled URGENT. You overhear the tension in a conversation. Online, everything looks the same: a ping, a red badge, a little green dot next to someone’s name. A casual question and a true emergency arrive wearing the same outfit. That ambiguity pushes you into a default mode: respond fast to be safe. Your brain hates open loops, and modern work quietly trains you to treat responsiveness like competence.

The Sneaky Cost

Always-on communication doesn’t usually blow up your day in one dramatic moment. It erodes your attention in constant nibbles.

For example, you’re writing a proposal. Ping. You answer. Back to the draft. Ping. You clarify. Back to the draft. Ping. Someone adds a quick question (the two most dangerous words in workforce history). You switch again. The result: you’re busy all day and strangely dissatisfied at the end of it. Work that changes outcomes like strategy, analysis, writing, planning, or decision-making, needs uninterrupted thought. Virtual communication is designed to interrupt you.

Availability as a Performance Metric

Here’s the quiet part nobody says out loud: in many teams, being reachable has become a stand-in for being valuable. You reply quickly, so you appear to be on top of the situation. You’re always online, so you look committed. You respond at night, so you look like a high performer. But that’s not high performance. That’s high visibility. And it often backfires. When responsiveness is rewarded, you get more messages. More messages create more interruptions. More interruptions lower quality, increase rework, and make everything feel more chaotic.

The Real Issue

Virtual communication hijacks your attention with:

Uncertainty – What if it’s urgent?
Social Pressure – They’ll think I’m not responsive.
Variable Rewards – Sometimes a message is trivial, sometimes it’s a fire. Your brain keeps checking like it’s pulling a slot machine lever.

Instead of relying on willpower, you need rules and norms. The kind you can actually follow on a Tuesday.

A Couple of Things You Can Do

Replace boundaries with response windows: Vague boundaries sound nice. Specific behavior changes actually work. Try saying these:

I check messages at :15 and :45 each hour.
I respond to non-urgent messages within 24 business hours.
I’m in deep work 9–11. If it’s urgent, call.

You’re not refusing communication. You’re upgrading it from constant to intentional.

Define urgent as a team sport: A lot of workplace stress comes from mismatched expectations. You think urgent means today. Someone else thinks it means now. Propose a simple shared definition:

Urgent: production issue, customer impact, deadline moved up, work blocked.
Not urgent: FYIs, feedback that isn’t blocking, quick questions, brainstorming.
Then add one rule: urgent gets a different channel. If it’s truly urgent, it should be a call, a tagged message, or a specific label, not a casual ping.

How do you turn off the always-on mentality? Please share in the comments.

For three more things you can do and a five-day Always-On Detox Plan sent right to your inbox for free, subscribe to my Substack here.

Future Reward

Automation has quietly absorbed many of the manual and rules-based tasks that used to fill our calendars. AI can sort forms, flag errors, follow instructions, and draft emails. But it still can’t build trust in a tense meeting. It can’t read the quiet frustration in a coworker’s voice. It doesn’t know when to push for a bold idea or when to hold back and listen.

That’s where you come in.

The future of work isn’t just tech. It’s deeply human. McKinsey & Company, a global management consulting firm, projects that by 2030, workers in the U.S. and Europe will spend 24% more hours using social and emotional skills. The biggest jump is initiative-taking and entrepreneurship. In other words: critical thinking, original ideas, thoughtful risk-taking, and the confidence to step forward even when no one hands you a roadmap. This shift creates opportunity. For example, a survey of 18,000 people across 15 countries found that soft skills (around here we call them power skills) aren’t tied to formal education the same way technical skills are. You don’t need a specific degree to negotiate well, manage conflict, or innovate. You do need practice, self-awareness, and the willingness to grow.

Skills You Need for 2026

Digital fluency: You don’t have to learn how to code, but understand cloud collaboration tools, social media platforms, cybersecurity basics, and AI usage. Knowing how data flows makes you a more capable decision-maker. You don’t have to master everything, but you do need to get comfortable navigating change.

Data and analytics: You are swimming in information. Data literacy helps you base decisions on facts instead of assumptions. Your influence grows when you can say, “Here’s what we know, here’s what it means, and here’s what we should do next.”

Empathy: This does not mean being nice. Empathy helps you decode emotions, understand roots of conflict, and build credibility. It’s what helps you hear what isn’t being said like the hesitation in a colleague’s suggestion or read the frustration behind a rushed email.

Resilience: Change is the default setting now. Resilience holds you steady through reorganizations, shifting priorities, and projects that fall apart before they get better. It helps you bounce instead of break.

Creativity and innovation: Creativity sparks ideas. Innovation turns them into action. Sometimes innovation is a moonshot, disruptive and bold. Other times it’s a roofshot, a smaller improvement that makes work smoother, faster, or more humane. Both count.

Problem-solving: This may be the most valuable muscle of all. Future problems won’t come with answer keys. You’ll need to analyze, identify patterns, test approaches, and adapt. You won’t always be right and you’ll have to be okay with that because it’s part of the job.

Where They Show Up in Real Life

Picture a normal Tuesday: You have four competing priorities and your inbox is multiplying.

Data skills help you separate urgency from noise. Decision-making sharpens when you can scan inputs and move.
You’re trying to stand out for a promotion. Innovation and initiative make you visible not louder or busier, but more intentional. When you propose a streamlined onboarding process or start a Lunch-and-Learn series, you’re signaling readiness to lead.
A colleague is combative in meetings. Empathy and resilience help you stay grounded, read the room, and respond rather than react. Conflict doesn’t disappear, but you navigate it with composure, curiosity, and respect. That builds trust.

How to Build Them

Make decisions faster: Set a two-minute rule. If a decision requires fewer than two minutes of thinking, make it now. Save your energy for the big ones.

Practice visibility with intention: Share learnings from your work in weekly team meetings. Resist bragging. Your goal is to inform. Like this: “Here’s what we tried, here’s what worked, here’s what we’ll adjust.”

Try a small innovation every week: Fix one friction point like a messy file system, an unclear hand-off process, or a confusing report. Incremental improvements compound.

Strengthen your empathy: Next time a colleague is short or stressed, assume their intent is positive before you react. Start with curiosity instead of defensiveness.

Build resilience through reflection: After setbacks, write two things: What did I learn? and How will I approach this differently next time? Resilience begins where rumination ends.

Boost digital fluency: Pick one new tool like an AI assistant, spreadsheet function, or project platform and learn one feature a week. Little steps. Big payoff.

The future of work will reward people who think, connect, and create not just complete tasks. Technology is getting exponentially better at the work of business and that’s exciting because it frees you up to get better at the work of humans. You don’t need permission to start. You don’t need a degree to grow. You don’t have to wait for the workplace of tomorrow. It’s here now.

How will you up your power skills in 2026? Please share in the comments.

Boundaries Have Consequences

I received this valuable feedback about last week’s discussion, Overcommitted:
“We think all we have to do is set up a boundary. But people push our boundaries and we have to defend them. That can be uncomfortable with coworkers and career threatening with higher-ups.”

Thank you for that point! Let’s talk about one of the trickiest situations you’ll face at work: holding boundaries when leadership pushes against them.

Risks and Rewards

Short-Term Discomfort: A manager who’s used to hearing “yes” may interpret a boundary as resistance or lack of commitment. This can feel awkward but that discomfort is temporary. Help them see how your intentionality makes you more reliable and engaged than ever.

Impact on Visibility: You worry about missing out on plum projects or promotions. Stay visible by over communicating progress on your existing priorities. Show that focus equals results. For example, “I’m wrapping up X this week, which should free up space for Y next quarter.” This helps you manage perception as much as workload.

Improved Respect: When you can say, “I’d love to take that on, but I want to make sure I can deliver the quality you expect,” you’re signaling maturity, not obstinance. Strong performers set boundaries because they care about doing things well.

Clarity Around Expectations: Your manager genuinely doesn’t realize the load you’re carrying. Communicating your bandwidth creates an opportunity to clarify what’s most important and what can wait. A respectful reality check helps both of you prioritize smarter.

Long-Term Career Growth: The same boundaries that cause friction early on often pay off later. People who manage their workload wisely are less likely to burn out, make fewer mistakes, and are more trusted with high-stakes projects. Leadership isn’t about taking everything on. It’s about taking on what moves the organization closer to its goals.

When It’s Your Manager Asking

When your manager gives you an assignment, you can’t just shrug and say, “Nope.” But you can negotiate.

When your plate is already full: “I’d love to help, and I want to make sure I’m meeting current deadlines. Can we talk about what should come off my plate if I take this on?” This signals realistic willingness and invites collaboration. You’re cooperating and making trade-offs visible.

When it’s clearly not your responsibility: “That sounds important. Who’s the best person to own that? I can share what’s worked for me in similar situations.” This reframes the request as problem-solving, not avoidance.

When the request is unclear: “Can you help me understand the goal of this task? I want to make sure it aligns with what we’re prioritizing right now.” This helps your manager think about the urgency of the task.

The next time you’re tempted to say yes out of habit, ask yourself: Is this task aligned with my goals? Will saying yes help me grow or just keep me busy? What am I giving up by agreeing to this?

What is a boundary you are glad you held? Please share in the comments.

The Art of Ignoring

Willpower isn’t just about resisting the urge to check Slack every time it pings. It’s about deliberate focus.

Focus Like a Lens

Think of your attention like the lens in your eye. When you focus on something close, the background blurs. Willpower works the same way. It sharpens your mental focus so one task comes into crystal-clear view while the rest fades away. When you say, “I’m finishing this presentation before lunch,” you’re choosing clarity over clutter. But when you rapidly task switch (multitasking is a myth, btw) like editing slides, checking email, responding to a message from your boss, then you’re trying to keep everything in focus at once. That’s like asking your eyes to look near and far at the same time. You end up not seeing anything clearly.

Try this: Before you start a task, close out everything that’s not essential: browser tabs, Slack channels, your phone. You’ll be amazed how fast your brain clicks into single-focus mode once you remove the background noise.

How to Bend Willpower to Your Will

Willpower is more like a cat than a dog. You can’t force it to show up on demand. However, you can make it easier to access. When you design your environment to make discipline unnecessary, willpower becomes less about fighting temptation and more about removing it.

Try this: Make the right thing easy and the wrong thing hard. For example: Keep healthy snacks visible; hide the candy. Put your phone across the room during meetings. Schedule deep work sessions at your mental peak (for many, that’s mid-morning).

Freedom in What You Don’t Do

Freedom at work doesn’t come from saying yes to everything. It comes from saying no to the wrong things. The freedom to end your day on time. The freedom to take lunch away from your desk. The freedom to leave unread emails… unread. Boundaries create breathing room. Without them, your time gets hijacked by other people’s priorities. True freedom at work is the ability to choose less on purpose.

Try this: Block “do not disturb” hours on your calendar and defend them like the Ukrainian Ironbelly dragon guards the Gringotts Wizarding Bank. You’ll feel your mental space expand almost immediately.

Willpower Needs Rest

Willpower is like a battery. If you drain it all day with constant decisions, nonstop meetings, and endless notifications, then it will fail you when you need it most. But when you rest and recharge, it grows stronger. Rest isn’t laziness; it’s maintenance. Take a walk. Eat lunch without your laptop. End your day instead of letting it fade into night. These aren’t indulgences. They are refueling stops for your brain.

Try this: Treat your focus like your phone battery. When it hits 20%, plug it in. For example, step away for five minutes, stretch, breathe, or just stare out a window. You’ll come back clearer and sharper.

How do you intentionally ignore what doesn’t matter so you can pour your attention into what does? Please share in the comments.

An Inside Job

Last week we talked about external storytelling; talking about your organization to clients and prospects. I received an interesting question from the Is It Worth Your T.E.A.M.? community: “Yeah, but what about the stories we tell each other inside the organization?” Great question!

Outside In

The way you share stories inside your company shapes culture. Just like you use stories to communicate trust, loyalty, and momentum to those outside your organization, use them to communicate those things inside it too.

For example, think about the difference between telling your team, “We hit Q3 revenue goals” versus “Because we hit Q3 revenue goals, we’re funding more professional development courses next year.” Same data, very different story.

Remind the team they are humans striving for a common goal. Inside your company, that could mean telling the story of how a developer solved a sticky bug that was holding up a release, not just announcing, “The app update is live.”

How to Frame the Work

Last week we talked about how every good story has a beginning, middle, and end. Here’s how this could look internally:

Beginning (Context): Your product team was preparing for a major feature release hyped in the last all-hands call. Everyone knew why the date was circled on the calendar.
Middle (Challenge): Two weeks before launch, quality assurance testing flagged serious bugs. Developers were already maxed out, designers were juggling other requests, and morale dipped as the deadline slipped further out of reach.
End (Resolution): Instead of finger-pointing, leadership organized a cross-functional sprint. Marketing paused nonessential campaigns, IT freed up resources, and a few late nights later, the bugs were squashed. The launch landed just one week late, with lessons learned about testing earlier and collaborating faster.

This story acknowledges the inevitable bumps. People respect honesty more than spin. The best stories make people feel something: relief, pride, humor. But be careful. Forced emotion backfires. If you exaggerate or fabricate, your audience can sense it. Instead, lean on authentic anecdotes. Maybe your customer support team celebrated hitting a 95% satisfaction rate by baking cookies shaped like happy faces. Or maybe an employee quietly mentored a new hire through their first chaotic sales cycle. Those details connect because they’re real.

Show AND Tell

Stories stick when they’re tangible. Saying, “Our team is collaborative” is one thing. Sharing how three departments rallied to fix a client issue overnight shows it. Saying, “We value growth” is fine. Pointing to the analyst who became a manager because of your training program proves it. Whenever possible, support your points with case studies, testimonials, or direct experiences. Proof beats platitudes every time. Also, ending your story with a call to action like,“Here’s how you can get involved in the new initiative” sets you up to gather more stories to tell.

Here’s your call to action: Pick one story your organization could tell better, and refine it. Can you make it more human? More honest? More audience-focused? Then please share in the comments what you did.

Your Career Compass

Promotions, project assignments, and pushback in meetings all come with trade-offs. Without a clear set of core values you’re just guessing which choice is right. With them you have a built-in compass that points you in the right direction even when the map is unclear.

What Are Your Core Values?

They are the deeply held beliefs that shape your decisions and actions. They’re the “why” behind your “what.” At work, they are the difference between wise choices and the ones you regret six months later. If you don’t know what your core values are, here is a list from Brene Brown (thank you!) to help you define them. After looking at the list:

Choose 10–15 values that resonate with you. Take your time but don’t overthink it
Whittle those down to 3–5. This is hard. Focus on what really drives you
Check your behavior against your list. This is where it gets uncomfortable: notice what you do, not just what you say. Values are only real if your actions reflect them. For example, if you say honesty is a core value but you leave inconvenient details out of a client report because it makes your team look better, then you may not be as committed to honesty as you thought. That’s not to shame you. It’s to help you notice when your behavior doesn’t match your stated values. The gap is revealing

Why Core Values Matter at Work

Leaders face this all the time: two options, both high stakes, both with trade-offs. Core values act as a filter. They help you set aside other people’s expectations so you can make decisions that align with who you are. For example, in a team meeting your manager proposes a project timeline you know is unrealistic. If one of your core values is integrity, that value pushes you to speak up even if it’s uncomfortable. If your top value is loyalty, you may frame your concerns differently, focusing on supporting the team while raising the issue.

Use Core Values to Guide Your Career

Short-term example: Your manager asks you to join a new project that would be great for your visibility but would require late nights for the next three weeks. If one of your values is balance, you may decide to pass or negotiate a more sustainable schedule. If your top value is growth, you may accept and plan for recovery time afterward.

Long-term example: You’re considering a job offer from a company with a reputation for high turnover and aggressive targets. If stability is a top value, you may decline. If innovation is a top value, you may decide the fast pace aligns with what you want.

In both cases, your values act like a GPS. You still choose the route, but they keep you pointed toward your destination.

How to Apply Your Core Values Right Now

Write them down and keep them visible: Put them on a sticky note on your laptop. Take a photo of them and use it as the wallpaper on your phone
Define 2–3 behaviors for each value: This makes them measurable and realistic
Run decisions through your values filter: When faced with a choice, ask: “Which option best aligns with my values?”
Use them in conversations: If you decline an opportunity, frame it around your values. For example: “I want to make sure I can deliver quality work, so I’m concerned about the current timeline.”
Revisit them quarterly: Your values may stay the same, but your behaviors may need updated as your career progresses

How do you use your core values to make wise career choices? Please share in the comments.

Pitching Change

You know you need presentation skills for giving a speech. But if you work with other people, you’re presenting all the time. In a Slack message. On a Zoom call. In a 15-minute check-in. Anytime you share an idea, pitch a change, or walk someone through your work, you’re presenting. And how well you do that matters. A lot.

The ability to present your ideas clearly and confidently is a soft skill that affects how you’re perceived, how well you get your work done, and how much influence you have. Here’s why.

Saves Time

We’ve all been in meetings where someone explains an idea for five minutes and afterward you’re still not sure what they meant. You’re confused about what you’re supposed to do with this information and frustrated that’s five minutes of your life you’ll never get back. Clear communication puts the focus on what matters. For example: You’re working on a new internal process that will speed up client onboarding. Instead of walking your team through every detail, you say: “Here’s what’s changing, why it matters, and how it will save us five hours a week.” Then limit your explanation to just those items. Now they’re with you.

Builds Trust

Presenting ideas well isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room. It’s about demonstrating you did the work. When you share ideas confidently, even in a one-on-one conversation, people take you seriously. The more you know your material and your audience, the less likely you’ll ramble, hedge, or over-explain. For example: You’re proposing a change to your team’s project timeline. You open with: “Here’s what I want to walk you through: the new timeline, what we gain from it, and how it keeps us on track without burnout.” You’re not just suggesting, you’re leading.

Drives Growth

People who communicate well advance their careers faster because they can show the value of what they know. According to a LinkedIn Workplace Learning Report, 92% of talent professionals say soft skills matter as much or more than hard skills. And communication tops the list. For example: You’re up for a stretch role that involves more cross-functional work. If you clearly present your past wins, share your approach, and respond to questions without spiraling, you’re more likely to land the opportunity.

Promotes Buy-In

You don’t need to be in sales to need persuasion skills. Every time you pitch a new idea, even internally, you’re trying to persuade someone. When you present well, you make it easy for people to say yes. That often means starting with the benefit to them, not you. For example, the next time you share one of your ideas, say this:“There are three things about this idea that I’m really excited about because they will help us hit our goals faster, save resources, and make things easier for the team.” Then dive into your proposal. Create interest and buy-in from the start.

Improves Results

When you’re boring or confusing, people check out. When you’re clear and direct, they lean in. For example: In a weekly team sync, you summarize a project’s status by saying: “We’re 75% done, we’ve cleared the two biggest obstacles, and we’re on pace to finish two days early.” That gets attention. You do more than inform, you engage.

Fosters Collaboration

When you present your thoughts clearly, you’re not just sharing your ideas, you’re creating space for others to build on them. For example: You’re brainstorming a solution for a client issue. You say: “Here’s my starting point. It fixes the core issue, works within budget, and gets us to resolution by Friday. Where do you see gaps or better options?” Now your team can focus on refining the solution instead of trying to figure out what you meant.

How do you effectively present your ideas? Please share in the comments.

Half Way There

Back in March, we did a reflection on the first quarter of the year. Now that we’re approaching the end of Q2, it’s time to evaluate the first half of 2025.

If you read the article, Quarterly Contemplation, and followed the final prompt to set goals for the following three months, pull those out. Did you achieve them? If so, what behaviors helped you? What got in the way? What could you tweak? If you have not reached your Q1 goals yet, how are they coming?

Last week, we talked about measuring success. I received feedback asking how you can shift your mindset when you are in the habit of comparing yourself to others. So, let’s focus on that for our end of Q2 reflection. These questions are meant to keep you anchored in what you can control: your choices, your mindset, and your direction.

Am I living up to my values?

It’s easy to get distracted by other people’s milestones, but their path may have nothing to do with what matters to you. Maybe you value creativity, but you’re comparing yourself to someone who’s climbing the management ladder. Different values, different paths.

For Example: Let’s say you’re in a marketing role and someone else on your team is great at landing speaking gigs. Before you start thinking, “I should be doing that,” ask yourself: “Is that the kind of contribution I want to make?” Maybe you care more about solving tough messaging problems or mentoring newer teammates. Write down your top three values related to work. For Q3, what happens when you align your daily tasks with them?

Do I know what my purpose is?

Purpose doesn’t have to mean saving the world. It can be as simple as learning your craft, building relationships, or getting better at delegation. The key is knowing what your work is building.

For Example: Let’s say you’re a project manager. Right now, your purpose might be building a track record of reliable delivery. That way, when bigger projects open up, you’re the obvious choice. Purpose creates direction and it helps you stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. Finish this sentence: “The purpose of my work right now is…” For Q3, what happens when you keep that sentence somewhere visible when you’re feeling distracted?

What’s my potential if I keep showing up?

It’s easy to get frustrated when success feels slow, but what could your job look like in six months if you stay consistent?

For Example: Think about a junior software developer learning a new coding language. Comparing yourself to a senior engineer won’t help but practicing every day will. The gap between where you are and where you want to be closes through daily effort, not overnight wins. For Q3, what if you strive for 1% improvement every day?

Does my behavior match the future I want?

Want to lead a team one day? Are you acting like someone who’s ready to lead? Want to be known as a problem-solver? Are you tackling problems, or waiting for someone else to handle them?

For Example: Let’s say you work in operations and your long-term goal is to move into leadership. Your future is shaped by today’s actions not by what someone else is doing. For Q3, what happens when you volunteer for cross-team projects? Offer solutions in meetings? Take ownership when things go sideways?

What are some questions you think we should ponder here at the end of Q2? Please share in the comments.